Boyfriend issues.. fantasy / online

Hey,

My boyfriend and I met almost a year ago on okcupid and after only speaking briefly decided to meet in person and totally hit it off. It's been a whirlwind, and it's been the best love I've ever been in. We have sooooo much fun together, and we love each other's families, etc. It's basically perfect.

We are different personality types (I am a capricorn and he is a cancer) so naturally he keeps a lot to himself. I have had a weird feeling though, since the beginning. I have really good intuition and I can sense things and since being together I have sensed he has had a hidden agenda online.

It's now at the point where I'd love to move forward with him
In the future but something is off.

He's sneaky about his phone and conversations and shares little with me in terms of sexual fantasy. I'm very open and sexual and I love porn so I'm always probing him to share more with me but he rarely does.

I definitely crossed the line, but I looked through his phone to find what kind of porn he likes so I could satisfy him to another level (valentines day is right around the corner). What i came across was shocking and it led me to look further and I'm scared of what I've discovered.

I looked in his history and found a ton of bbw porn. Which is cool, everyone has their thing. But I looked further and realized it's more like forums and stuff, which requires accounts, etc. I then looked at his skype which I've seen him use in the past and wondered why (all his friends live in the same city , etc) and there always seemed to be a lot of convos. But I brushed it off and figured maybe all his friends use it or something. I looked this morning, he is having weird sexual conversations with multiple people about food in a dirty sexual way. It's very confusing. He is having conversations with these girls about how sexy they look, requesting pics, asking them to talk dirty, etc. It makes me sad because he rarely says those things to me and I mean, I'm a decent looking young female with good style.

It's a sensitive topic and I didn't want to reach out to friends but I desperately need advice.

Do I confront him? What would I even say? What should I be feeling?

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Why You Should Move On From Your Knight In Shining Armor Fantasy

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Have a crush on the Knight In Shining Armor? Read on to learn why you should probably move on.

I just don't get this knight in shining armor ladies speak of. What is so desirable about this guy? Women want to be rescued by this knight, just a dude galloping over the hills on his horse wearing full body armor prepared to fight the Russians....or Anthony from New Jersey — whoever gets in his way is fair game. But to be honest, this knight guy seems pretty lame to me.

First off, he's on a horse. This guy doesn't even have a car. Ladies, you think your dad would approve of you dating a guy who can't even afford a 2002 or 2003 Honda Civic? This knight sounds like a loser. No car? He's poor. Riding up on his horse like he's a big deal but the reality is that we don’t even need horses anymore. Get a car, knight, and shine that up a bit.

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If you had to ride around on a horse with your knight, where would you go on a date? Probably to the river so the horse can drink some water. He's tired of lugging you around all day. You think the horse wants to hang out at Pizza Hut while you share a medium pizza for $11.99 (Knight had a coupon for equal or lesser value). No, the horse is thirsty. Once again, if your knight had a car, this wouldn't be an issue, but instead he's strutting around town on a horse.

Second off, let's say you are attracted to your knight, his horse, and how he sojourns around town like he's Alexander the Great (he even tells people he's related). Ok, so now you want to make-out and kiss your knight. Do you have three hours to sit around and wait for him to take off all his armor? It's gonna be hard to kiss Robocop while he's wearing a helmet that weighs more than a small child. He'll be like, "Ok, let's totally kiss, just give me a few hours to take off all my armor. Can you hold my sword and help me with these thigh plates?" Hell, by the time he's done you'll be in menopause and not even horny anymore. See, I told ya this knight was a loser.

Also, being in a relationship with a knight would be tough because he's always wearing that armor. You want a quick trip to IKEA? Good luck with that because your knight is going to take five hours putting on his armor. He's convinced the Romans might show up in the Home Furnishings sections ready to "get some". He's been waiting years for them to arrive.

Ladies, just saying, this knight doesn’t seem like a good choice. He's riding a horse, wearing armor all day, shiny looking like a prism. I think you can do better. I suggest while your knight is taking off his armor, get on his horse and ride away to find you a police officer in a bullet proof vest. At least that dude will have a car.

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Stuck in a Fantasy?

People Involved into this.
1: Me, (Tyler)
2: Crystal (Girl I like)
3: Cynthia (Friends Mom, who is the girl i like's mother)
4: Jake (Friend)
5: Samantha (Girl i like's Friend)
6: Tyler (Gay, friend)

Background info:
1: I am 16
2: Longest relationship is 2months
3: I have been cheated on numeriously, to the point to where my last relationship was over 2 years ago.
4: My Mom and Dad, went to highschool with Cynthia.
5: Jake is like a brother to me, and is alright with the fact that I like his sister.
6: I've only known Crystal for about 2 weeks now.
7: I'm not looking to get into a relationship, Not yet atleast.
8: I've grown up, knowing who is, and isn't in my league.

Alright. So October 18th(Tuesday), maybe. Idk. I met my Friend Jake's Sister, she is 19, About 5'7 hazel eyes, she lives normally in New York, which is one state away. She models, and has a degree is cosmaetology. She is talking to a guy that is a millionaire.. And she just recently spent 1800$ on a purse.. It's like a Princess and a Peasant Situation.I didn't stay there for long, But before I left his house that night, i told myself that I didn't like her, and that I was out of her league, and that I shouldn't even get involved. She was up, in my town visiting her mom and brother. In Michigan.
So Thursday night comes, and I'm staying the night at my friends house.. and 4 of Jake's friends were over, All did the following to her.
1: Was litterly her own personal bitch, did everything that she wanted, pronto.
2: Stared at her while she was in the hottub, (B cup?)
3: Looked at her ass, when she walked by,
4: Said sexual innuendos.
5: being Very Clingy.
I did none of those.. I didn't stare at her in the hottub, I didn't look at her ass, and I was NOT her bitch.. She litterally asked me if I was Gay, because I didn't do any of that... And which I am not. I told myself I was out of her league, so I didn't bother.. Apparently. She told Jake, and her friend Samantha that I was cute, MULTIPLE times. And that she wanted to cuddle with me that night.. Being cool with it, because I just didn't wanna act even more gay then i was asked. Lol. I did, It was my first time cuddling with a girl.. I was nervous.. And later on that night, she kept like talking to me, and making lip gestures, I could tell she wanted to kiss, but I was extremely nervous.. And so She goes out for a cigarette break, and my friend Tyler (who is gay) Comes in, and asks me why I won't kiss her, and I told him that i was nervous, and that I knew that i was out of her league.. and then she comes back in. Sits on my dick. And kisses my neck, and whispers in my ear seductively, and says "Don't tell yourself that your out of somebodies league.." and then she kisses me, and Im nervous. it was my first time kissing a girl in 2 years, and it was with a 19 year old model.. Eventually throughout the night, I got more comfortable, and we cuddled, and fell asleep. And i had school in the morning. I woke up at 6:30 to get the kids up, and then layed back down and cuddled. I left for school around 7:20 and Then kissed her good-bye. This was the last time i saw her.. 4 days later. She can't leave my mind. I'm having a hard time not blowing up her phone.. And I even remixed a song, and sung it.. (not too her).. I was the only one jake's friends that kissed, and cuddled his sister, and he told me that he looked up to me, because of it, and that i'd make a great brother in law..
Advice? I do want to be in a relationship with her.. But I'm nervous I am going to fuck things up..

Help?

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