The Bright Side Of Being Single [EXPERT]

ProConnect Subscribe to Experts Blog By Life Coach Kelly Rudolph. Posted on Dec 31st 2012.

Are you happy being single? Plus: Are you a teepee or a skyscraper? Find out!

If you don't know how to be happy when your single, chances are, your relationships will always teeter on the brink of doom. Why? Because the "right guy" for you when you're unhappy being single likely feels the same way as you — he's unhappy being single, too. And two people who are unhappy being single in a relationship together, well, that's a disaster waiting to happen.

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Here's what I mean. Picture two, emotionally healthy, happy people standing next to each other having a relationship. They are both standing tall like skyscrapers, happy to be together but also individually complete when separate. Now picture two unhappily single people leaning on one another. They look like a teepee. If one falters, they both collapse.

See the difference? Being happy single doesn't mean you don't want a relationship. It means you get to attract a happy, single man into a healthy relationship.

If you're thinking to yourself that relationships mean having someone to help you get through life, you may need to take a closer look at your life. Life isn't something to be gotten through. Life is to be lived, loved, laughed, danced and celebrated, which can only truly happen with two people who recognize they are complete on their own.

Once you know how to be happy single, once you enjoy time with friends and alone without needing a relationship to validate your existence, then, when you're in a relationship, you'll have a lot more fun. Plus, you'll be that mucy more likely to attract someone who knows how to be happy single as well. The relationship will be created by two, mentally and emotionally healthy people instead of two needy people. Doesn't that sound like more fun? Keep reading ...

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