Guy coming on too strong...what do I do?

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So I met a guy at this apartment party I went to on February 16th (saturday). He was sweet, but I was actually there with another guy I was seeing so I didn't really pay any mind to him, really didn't think about him at all. Just thought he was a nice guy and we have so many mutual friends, are from the same town, etc. So I decided to add him on Facebook just cause. Everything is good, and on the 18th (the monday after the party) he messages me and we have literally talked ever since. We talked on Facebook message for a while and then he asked for my number.

He texts me every day. Not in the morning, but probably the latest would be 1pm or so. And the conversation lasts until I tell him I'm going to bed. And the same thing every day. I don't think that should be the case for a guy you are just getting to know. Every other day or even every few days is the amount I think is acceptable at this point.

I'm not physically attracted to this guy. Turns out, things didn't work out with the guy I was on the date with (another long story). So I decided to give him a chance. I was thinking physical attraction can form and doesn't have to be automatic and all my friends told me to give him a chance. I've been on like 3 dates with this guy. That next week we went to a baseball game together, and also went to the movies on another night. And lastly we went out again on Thursday. I saw him while I was walking to class on friday, and he wanted to see me tonight (saturday).

I know this is all over the place but I'm just trying to let my thoughts out. I'm not attracted to this guy. Still am not. But I'd HATE to see a great guy get away....he's such a sweet heart. I know I need to tell him something though.

I don't believe I'm leading him on but things are just not working out. I should not dread hanging out with a guy I don't feel a connection with.

I just feel like there is no mystery, everything is laid out. I just don't want to waste my time with a guy I'm not into and miss the guy I'm supposed to be with.

What's yalls advice? Give him more of a shot or stop things now?

I think you've already answered your question! If you don't have a physical attraction or any connection and you just think that they are a nice person, then what you have is a friend. I don't think your leading him on because you were just giving yourself a fair chance to see if there is anything between you which is the right thing to do. I guess it's time to be honest and tell him you like him as a friend and a person but you can't really see anything beyond that. It's only fair to you both because if you take it further and your not in to him, then there won''t be happiness between you and that's where problems and hurt develop.

Last edited by Jonno; 03-10-2013 at 02:47 PM.

I think you should tell him how you feel. The sooner you'll do it, the better, because he clearly is falling in love with you and it will hurt him more if you'll wait and let him believe that there is future for this relationship.

I know how you feel. I hate it when a guy is coming on too strong. You should probably text him less-from several times a day to eventually several times a month, depending on how you feel about him. You do not want to lead him on. You should slowly and gently let him down so he can get the message and it won't put you in a difficult situation. If you do not like him in a romantic way, you should probably not go on any romantic dates with him. You do not want him to get the wrong idea.

You need to stop leading him on. If he is a good catch, is there anyone you know who you can fix him up with so they both could be happy? Let him know he is a great guy and you want to be friends.

You need to stop leading him on. If he is a good catch, is there anyone you know who you can fix him up with so they both could be happy? Let him know he is a great guy and you want to be friends.Pretty solid advice. That's a good idea if you think he's a great guy.

You definitely need to end it though if you're not interested in him romantically. Things aren't going to be any easier for him if you continue to date and he starts to think that you're a couple or officially together.

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