Hey guys,I think I messed up. My ex boyfriend and I were hanging out a lot and we had a really nice day after I told him I was in love with him and we made love, the next morning we hung out all day and then I went home but before I did he just made me feel real special. He picked me up and hugged me really tight and gave me kissea as I walked out the door. Well I can't tell if I messed up or if he just doesn't care. Like most guys he's very closed off. I asked him if he thought he wasn't allowing himself to trust me and if he was ever going to let me in. He replied "I'm not too sure and I don't know if that's what I want really." So I replied "so you just don't want me?" He didn't text me back for a while and like a dumb ass I let my emotions get the best of me and put something on facebook about knowing when to move on and deserving better. The next morning he text me saying "not exactly how I think he wants me, but relationship wise...no". I obviously thought he meant sex so I was pretty upset and I told him I didn't want him either and I deserve better. Am the asshole here or is he? To test it out, I asked him to be my **** buddy, but he ignored me. I guess I really was just hurt and trying to hurt him. I can't tell if he's genuine or trying to hurt me because of what I said on facebook.
PLEASE HELP :/
Facebook has been the cause of death of many relationships- new and old. Dont feel bad..I let my emotions get the best of me at times too. I've learned to use a breathing exersize when something upsets me..counting backwards from 10 or 20...concentrating on calming down and looking at things from a more rational perspective. Don't be so hard on yourself- you did say this was an ex-boyfriend..and ex-boyfriends are usually ex's for a reason. Move on.
Communicating any way that's not face-to-face causes a few problems. I know sometimes it's more convenient, but there's a lot of ability for misunderstandings and confusions.If he doesn't want to be in a relationship, don't get hung up with him and offer to just let him use you for sex. Unless that's really where you are in life, but it doesn't seem to be like that -- you seem to really care about him, and were just offering to be a booty call when he needs someone. This will only complicate things down the road.
Find someone who actually wants to be in a relationship with you (again, if that's what you want.) Try and forget about this guy if you can, because he seems to not want that at all right now.
Don't ever put anything on Facebook. It's aired to all of your friends and anyone else who can see it on the internet. Instead of putting it out there, talk to him, tell him how you feel. Try getting a hold of him again and say you think you got off on the wrong foot and want to make it work again. If you love him, make it work. If you feel he's not right, then move on.
Don't ever put anything on Facebook. It's aired to all of your friends and anyone else who can see it on the internet. Instead of putting it out there, talk to him, tell him how you feel. Try getting a hold of him again and say you think you got off on the wrong foot and want to make it work again. If you love him, make it work. If you feel he's not right, then move on.I'm a fighter. I have fought for him and he makes it very difficult. Like too difficult to the point where my own dignity is questioned. Ijust told him that I didnt want a relationship because I dont know what I want. Which is mostly true he acceptesd my apology and is very understanding. He seems to want me when I tell him I just want to be friends. Very confusing. He wants to see me when we establish we are just friends and he cuddles me and showers me with affection, but when we establish we are trying he doesn't make any effort. Thats strange isn't it. Either way its unneeded stress.
I think he didn't want a relationship. It's not like you "messed up" like you say. He just felt familiar and thought what you guys were doing was just familiar and he missed it. I don't think he wanted to take it even further. Sorry!
I think he didn't want a relationship. It's not like you "messed up" like you say. He just felt familiar and thought what you guys were doing was just familiar and he missed it. I don't think he wanted to take it even further. Sorry!Yeah, well this is why I dont date guys my age. Im not perfect, but I really hate games. All guys in their 20s wants to date the girls that really dont bring much to the table and I'm not like that. I put my all into people I trust and care about. Im not too worried about it. It wasn't meant to be, I guess I sensed he didnt want a relationship for a while and thats why I jut grew out of it and Im not sure if its what I want either.
He was not for you. If it was someone who loved you he would have waited to talk about what you meant on your facebook status personally and you would have spoken like adults and he would have understood what made you say what you said and you would have understood then what he meant earlier which lead you to write what you wrote. You both allowed your emotions to control you none of you was logical about it, but those are the experiences you learn from as life goes on.You may not create new Love Advice Forum threadsYou may not post repliesYou may not post attachmentsYou may not edit your postsForum Rules
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