Whipping Love Into Shape: 11 Signs You're A Relationship Flogger

One sign? Your idea of love involves a guy making you the "exception" to the rule. Sometimes whips can be cool, but a relationship flogger isn't so fun...

Relationships are tough, and when they aren't working out the way we would like we sometimes stay in them and are hell-bent on changing things around. Perhaps you want your partner to just stop leaving dirty socks on the floor. Or maybe you want to take the next big step in your relationship.

But are these desires turning you into one of the many people who are too busy 'flogging' a relationship to turn it into something it's not? Of course we are not talking about the type of flogging that has to do with a switch, but possibly the verbal kind that has to do with a lot of questions and arguments between you and your partner because the relationship isn't what you envisioned. Still not sure if you're a relationship flogger? Well, here are 11 signs that will definitely clear things up for you.

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1. Relationships are work!
You believe that true love means putting up with everything, through thick and thin. If you're not working harder than a gravel layer on a sweltering hot day, then you don't think you're really in love.

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12 Signs You're Not On A Date

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You're having a great time, but are you just hanging out? Because sometimes it's not so clear...

Almost 70 percent of people have been unsure whether they're on a date at one point or another, according to a recent survey. Need a little help figuring it out?

We reached out to TheDatingCouncil.com (and mined our own twisted minds) to come up with some telltale signs that you are not, in fact, on a date.

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Love Bytes: The 11 Signs You're Ready To Settle Down

One sign? You've recently thrown out all of your "clubbing clothes". Plus, what never to say to a working mom. Ever.

Unless you've been hiding under a rock or deactivated your Facebook account (same thing?), you know we're deep into "engagement season." But are you ready to settle down? See the 11 signs you're ready to have him put a ring on it. (The Stir)

Would you get plastic surgery down there just to please your man? See what this sexpert thinks. (Essence)

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Bloodshed, barbies and how Miesha Tate became a MMA fighter. (Bleacher Report)

Love guys in hoodies? Then just wait until you see these DOGS in hoodies. You're welcome. (The Chive)

Don't believe everything guys say, work on yourself…and keep working, and more relationship lessons you wish you'd known sooner. (A New Mode)

Single and ready to mingle? Find out what really attracts a man when you're out. (Cupids Pulse)

Have a box of tissue handy? See this old married couple reenact Up in a photoshoot. (The Frisky)

Virgin? Here's everything you've ever needed to know about your V-card. (Gurl)

Bourbon marshmallows, whiskey praline pecans, and more things you should've bought your whiskey-loving beau for Christmas. (HiConsumption)

The real signs your guy is ready to put a ring on it.  (The Gloss)

Want him to pop the question already? Here's how you do it, according to a guy. (A New Mode)

"I don't know how you do it. I'd feel too guilty." ... and more things never to say to a working mother. (HLNtv)

How can you heal and move on after a broken heart? Here's a must-watch video with the answer. (Cupids Pulse)

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Is sex on the first date an instant relationship killer? Here's what a guy thinks. (A New Mode)

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13 Moments That Make You So Happy You're Single

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Need more reasons to celebrate National Singles Week? We've got 13! Candy Crush, reality TV, dancing like a freak... what's there not to love about being single?

Flowers, chocolates, date nights and a forever plus one? Please. There truly is no greater love than you and your DVR.

We recently told you about all those little-known benefits of being single and now, in honor of National Singles Week, we celebrate those times you're oh-so thankful to be swinging solo.

1. When you realize the only time you absolutely need to check your phone is for Candy Crush updates.

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2. When you remember there's a pint of Ben and Jerry's in the freezer and it's ALL. YOURS.

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3.The fact that you can easily cancel all your weekend plans to lay in bed and watch Harry Potter movies uninterrupted.

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4. When there's a Real Housewives of New York marathon on.

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5. When you're thankful for all the happy relationships you have.

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6. When you think about where you see yourself 5 years from now.

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9. When it's football season and you don't have to go to a single game.

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10. Time for bed? You can do this. For hours.

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11. No pants on a Friday night? No problem.

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12. When your song comes on.

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13. When this guy walks into the room.

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3 Lies You're Telling Yourself That Keep You Single

Stop all the crazy-talk and start believing in love! How your negative internal monologue may be pushing love away from you.

I don't want you to feel like a crazy person, but have you noticed how much you talk to yourself? Everyone does it, and you're probably not an exception. Even now, while you read these words, your mind is chatting to you.

Indeed, our self-talk is active during every waking moment. Much of what we say to ourselves is made up of repetitive ideas that we're not even aware we're thinking. If the majority of these ideas are negative, our actual experience will in turn be tinged with negativity, giving us the very opposite of what we desire. After all, what we desire is love in a healthy relationship.

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If we don't get wise to the self-talk going on in the privacy of our minds, we'll end up sabotaging our relationships, creating pain and misery for ourselves and for those around us. Often, we tell our friends and family one thing, but secretly think the opposite. For example, we may say that we're happy being single, and excited about the search for a partner. In our minds, we're terrified, scolding ourselves for not yet finding a good guy. In fact, there seems to be a "collective unconscious" of single women's thoughts. Keep reading...

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If your first date with a man is only mildly interesting and leaves you feeling rather blah, you may be tempted to write him off and move on. Beware: this might be a dating mistake that could affect the rest of your life. First dates are deceiving. You may decide within the first 10 minutes of meeting someone that you’re not attracted to him and that ... Read moreBy Virginia Clark

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Stop Hibernating! How To Date When You're Allergic To Everything

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SEE MORE VIDEOS Did you know? Allergy medicine can dry up a woman's natural lubrication "down there," as can menopause and drinking.

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Happy pollen season! Six tips for the highly allergic dater.

Cat hair, pollen, oysters — our allergies are indoors, outdoors and just about anywhere you can imagine.

But now that the season is changing, a whole new slew of allergy possibilities are in the air. More time outside means plenty more opportunities for uncontrollable achoos and red, itchy eyes. But don't let it ruin your dating life, just make sure you know the rules.

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Our friends at The Frisky came up with some great tips for highly allergic daters. From No dates in the park to avoiding cat-obsessed dudes, here's your guide.

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5 Big Reasons You're Still Single

Maybe you think the only people who deserve love have already found it. Want to change your relationship status? The first step is to know why you can't seem to find love.

You've read all the magazines and the top dating tips, but at the end of the day, you haven't found the answers to why you're still single. After years of coaching clients and running a dating service, I've found five reasons why you're stuck being single.

1. Your love life is not your top priority. You think about dating here and there, but you are not going out on dates regularly. You spend time thinking about work, going to gym, you say you're busy, but really you're not prioritizing this part of your life. If you met an amazing guy today you would spend hours, maybe even days with him so why not put some of this time into finding him?

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2. You don't believe you deserve to give and receive love. You think the only people who deserve love have already found it. You think to yourself, "Oh, she's so pretty and nice she deserves a great guy." But so do you! You just have to believe it and know what you have to offer. There is someone out there looking for the exact qualities you have, you just don't know how to show them off.

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3. You're looking for qualities in a man instead of qualities of the relationship. Stop making a never-ending list of qualities to look for in a guy. What's important is the relationship. Think of what you want in a relationship or with your partner, not just the qualities of that person. Keep reading...

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Why You're Dating The Wrong Guys [VIDEO]

Do you always find yourself attracted to the wrong guys? Are you wondering if you should go against your dating instincts? If so, help is on the way.

In this video, couples counselor and YourTango Expert Larry Michel explains that people decide who may be a match for them based on chemistry.

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"Chemistry is a drug and for people, chemistry is either true or its false," he says. By that, he means that chemistry often leads to false attractions. Instinctually, you feel attracted to this person, but when you get to know them on a more intimate level, you find that they are not a good match for you in the long-term. So how do you know the difference between true compatibility and chemistry?

Want to learn more? Check out the video above!

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5 Warning Signs You're Dating A Womanizer [EXPERT]

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One red flag? He's over the top with romance. Is he your Prince Charming or a smooth Casanova in disguise?

You've just met a man who, at least on the surface, seems to be your dream guy. He's attractive, funny, charming, successful and his smile (let alone the thought of his caress) makes you weak in the knees. You go out on a date or two, and he's nothing short of perfect. He treats you like a queen, compliments your sense of style and tells you all of the things that you've been longing to hear from a guy.

So how do you know this guy's the real thing and not just some womanizer who's going to disappear after your first slumber party? While the only way to know for sure is to pass the test of time, here are a few red flags that would definitely indicate a potential for womanizer status.

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1. He has a reputation. If your girlfriends have warned you that he uses women and throws them away, you need to listen to them and know he's most likely a womanizer. Granted, there's a small chance that you are the woman that can change him, but even if you do, you'll just wind up spending the rest of your relationship worrying he's going to revert back to his old womanizing ways. It's very likely a guy like this will.

2. He moves fast. Before you've even had a chance to meet his friends and family, he's telling you that you're the woman of his dreams and he's been waiting his whole life just to find you. While this is certainly exciting and thrilling, how could he possibly know that this quickly? It's much more likely that he's just in love with love (best case), or he's just trying to get one thing from you (you know what it is). And this womanizer wants to reach his goal as soon as possible.

3. He's over the top with the romance. We all love romantic gestures, whether it be a hand-written poem or a bouquet of flowers delivered to our desks at work, but if your guy constantly wants to jet you off to the islands for a romantic weekend or often surprises you with lavish jewelry, then he's most likely had plenty of practice. While you might be thinking that you're just graciously accepting his gifts, to him, these come with surprise expectations on your part.

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4. He only has eyes for you … and anything else in a skirt. If you notice that your guy is checking out other women, or worse, flirting with the waitress, hostess, barista, etc., then he's most likely a womanizer. As he's telling you how beautiful you are and that you're exactly the type of woman for him, he's already thinking about how the woman that just walked by fits the same description. He's not lying — the womanizer feels this way about every woman that strikes his fancy — you just happen to be part of the (very populated) crowd. Keep reading ...

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There comes a time in everyone's life when something happens that causes you to re-evaluate the path you're on. A crisis of sorts, to set a change in motion to lead you to a different path, to get you to stop and take notice of what is and isn't working. This turning point will look different for everyone, but the point is to make whatever has ... Read moreBy Jane Garapick

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Is The Guy You're Dating Really Single? [VIDEO]

Are you wondering if the guy you've been dating is really single or just shopping around? Desperate for some clarity in your growing relationship? If so, help is on the way.

In this video, dating coach and YourTango Expert Maya Ezratti says that you never want to ask point-blank if he's dating around, because it shows too much interest from your standpoint. Instead, you'll want to redefine the idea of being single in your mind. "Being single is different in being available," she says. "If he hasn't asked you to be exclusive, then he's probably dating other people but the good news is you can be dating other people too."

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What to Wear: When You're Meeting His Parents On Easter [PHOTOS]

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Tomboy? Try this casually chic chambray polka-dot dress. Five sweet and stylish Easter outfits for any style.

As if meeting the parents isn't daunting enough, taking the parental plunge on Easter brings another level of expectation to the already nerve-racking experience.

Dress appropriately! With spring weather in full force, you can probably get away with skirts sans tights and open toe shoes. Opt for light and cherry colors, but avoid looking like a pastel Easter egg.

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Choose clothes that will make you feel comfortable and confident, while also looking respectful and composed. Aim for sweet, sunny and stylish, without appearing too fiercely fashion-forward or over-the-top. And, be sure to avoid stilettos in case you need to take part in an active egg hunt.

We give you five Easter-appropriate meet-the-parents outfits to choose from, so all you have to do is worry about is impressing the fam with your festive charm.

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10 Things Your Friends Think You Want To Do Because You're Single

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What would you add to the list?

Sometimes our coupled friends get it all wrong. You know the friend who gets into a relationship and then completely forgets what it's like to be single? Yeah, we're talking about her.

The one who assumes you want to cat sit, be the third wheel or hear dating advice you never asked for. Does anyone ever want to do these things?

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3 Signs You're In A Love-Hate Relationship [EXPERT]

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Is it love or hate? Sometimes it's hard to tell. Are you in a love-hate relationship? Let's find out!

When a girl likes a guy, she will put up with a lot. Flaking on phone calls, cancelling plans and even dropping hints that a long-term relationship is not in the cards. Every day, I receive emails from women desperately seeking advice about how to deal with the object of their affection and frustration. While I can give tips and techniques on how to get him to initiate more texts or how to have that relationship talk, the real question here is why do so many women want to be in a relationship with someone who constantly frustrates and disappoints them?

Are you in a love-hate relationship? Let's find out!

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1. You only like "the outside." He may be 6'2, drive a Benz and have a wicked cute smile, but he also cancels at the last minute, waits days to call and keeps you on edge at all times. You want him but you also can't stand him and that is because you are smitten with the exterior package he portrays.

Sure, he's good looking, charming and funny but those are all surface-level qualities, and what matters most when deciding to get involved with a man is his core character. Is he a man of his word? Is he someone who puts others first? Does he treat all people with the same respect? Most importantly, how does he make you feel when you're with him?

As I talk about in my book, Was It Something I Said?: The Answer to All Your Dating Dilemmas, these are the more important things to consider, so when you are frustrated by your guy, ask yourself if what's going on here is you love the outside but hate what's inside? Even though you may be wildly attracted to him now, after a few years of being with a man who lacks character, you won't care how cute his butt looks in those jeans. You won't be able to stand the sight of him.

2. He's a prize to be won. You've already invested a few months and although things aren't exactly going well, you'll be damned if you give up and walk away now. But your quest to officially land him has become more about validating yourself than it is about finding true love.

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When we get involved with people who are selfish or unreliable (for example) it make us question our worth. It shouldn't, because it's not our fault a guy lacks character but for some reason we tell ourselves that if he liked us more, he'd behave better. Keep reading ...

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The following is part of an excerpt from the new book, You Lost him at Hello: From dating to “I Do” – secret strategies from one of America’s top dating coaches (HCI, 2013), by Jess McCann Mallory and Megan are best friends. When they both turned twenty-nine they suddenly began to worry about whether or not they were ever going to ... Read moreBy Jess McCann

Many years ago, before I became a relationship coach, I read a lot of self-help books. Some were good, some were bad, and I always struggled to decide whose advice to take. When I became an author, and submersed myself in the world of self-improvement, it became clear which books had useful, innovative advice for women. With that in mind, here are the top ten ... Read moreBy Jess McCann

I remember in high school the very distinct feeling that I would never understand men. The boys I had dated long-term in both high school and college sent me such conflicting messages that I truly believed men simply didn't have emotions. Not like women did, anyway. After all, how can you tell someone you love them one day, and then blow them off to party ... Read moreSee More

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