So I'm sure stories similar to what I'm about to post can be found if I scroll through the forums enough, but I guess I want to naively hope my situation is different. Sorry for the length of this.Anyways, there is a girl that I texted for a good portion of December, we had our first date on Dec. 30, ended up seeing each other for a little bit on New Year's Eve, and then hung out the following Saturday which was like 4 days later. She's 21 and lives at home, and her sister was heading back to college the next day. So she invited me out to her house because she said her sister wanted to meet me. So I met her family and everything on our third date, I was ok with it though, because I do like her and had kind of already made up my mind that I could see a relationship with her. Anyways, I thought the night went well, well enough that I kissed her at the end of the night, though it wasn't smooth, and I'm now not sure it was welcome. She texts me on the way home, " Thanks for spending your night with us
" I texted her when I got home that I had a good time and really liked her family, and then made a joke about the kiss. No response, but she occasionally doesn't respond late at night, so I wasn't going to stress about it.
I didn't hear from her the following day (Sunday), sent her a really short text Monday, still no response. So Tuesday I send a message that says, "I called earlier to apologize for the way Saturday night ended. I misread the situation, and I'm sorry if it made you uncomfortable. I'm not sure where things stand on your end right now, I feel like not good. But feel free to call or text me if you want to hang out more or get things back on the right track." She responded about an hour later with the following, "No I'm sorry! I'm awful at responding to messages and I really need to get better at that. I was happy that you came over and I was just nervous or awkward because not too many people come up to the house and I wasn't sure how everything was going to go."
I sent her a response to that saying I understood, and that I'd like to get together sometime soon to watch a movie if she is interested. No response. The next day sent I her a message saying I hope she had a good day at work, no response, and here I am Thursday afternoon, still no response, and more confused than ever.
So I guess I come to this forum because I really don't know what to think of her responses, or lack thereof. I'm of course overanalyzing everything, but on the other hand, I may be trying to overlook the pretty blatant ignoring of my texts because I want things to work so much. I don't think that her and I went 5 days without at least texting in all of December, so it doesn't seem like doing that after the 3rd date is a positive sign. On the other hand, she could have easily just not responded when I said feel free to text me if you want to get things back on track. What's the play from here? Give her more time? Move on? I don't want to be one of those guys who just don't pick up hints, but I also don't want to quit if there still seems reason for optimism.
*I should also say I don't THINK she is dating anyone else. She has a pretty religious family, and I don't think she would bring me to meet her family if there were other guys. I can't say that with 100% certainty though.
I can't figure out how to edit, but I feel like I should also add, I have a concert date with her planned for 10 days from now that I set up with her Saturday night. She hasn't cancelled that at this point, though that doesn't mean she won't. Part of me just wants to call her and say I like you, how do you feel? But another part of me is tempted to just play it cool and hope I can pick it back up if this concert date happens. I'm not sure if the potential of another date should influence my current response.You may not create new Love Advice Forum threadsYou may not post repliesYou may not post attachmentsYou may not edit your postsForum Rules
