Is she interested in me?

I am now in the college dorms and have had my door open to invite people in for the past few days. Today, some of my hallmates had a few friends over, including this one girl. After she passed by my room, I overheard her talking to her friends since we both had our doors open. I couldn't hear the whole conversation, but I could hear her saying things like "no, I'm not going to talk to him first" and other stuff like that. Her friends were trying to convince her to talk to some guy, and I assumed it was the guy across the hall. Anyways, after like 10 minutes of their discussion, she came into my room (to my surprise) and asked for me to proofread an essay for psychology. Anyways, I was able to help and we talked for a few minutes afterwards. I didn't really get to know her too much since I think we were both a little out of our comfort zones but she was pretty attractive and I would like to get to know her better. Anyways, we said our goodbyes and she went back to her friend's room. She came back to mine after a few minutes and introduced herself since we hadn't formally introduced ourselves. She then proceeded to ask for my number and said she wanted to text me later. Oh yeah, and during our initial encounter, her friends kept coming into my room and did stuff to try and embarrass her. So at this point, I'm not sure if she is attracted to me and told her friends, or if this was just how they all act normally. It has been close to 12 hours since she said she'll text me so I am now waiting for the next few days to see if she will really text me (if she is interested, I'd assume she will wait a while to not seem obsessed) or if she just wanted my number to help with psych or if she just wanted to add another number to her phone book. I thought this was strange how she left and then came back asking for my number and especially how she said she'll text me later. Because in my experience, when girls just want my number to study or something school related, then they don't say they'll "text me later". I don't want to get my hopes up too much in the next few days in case she doesn't text me, but I want to see what everyone's opinions here are. Also, I don't remember her name.... any ideas on what to do if she texts me back to get her name while being inconspicuous?

Hello theend,

Well, I have heard and experienced such situations many many times . She definitely wants to get to know you more and take a step closer towards your newborn relationship. No matter why she took your number, she will contact you sooner or later. Not remembering her name can mean a lot to her since it can consider you careless but I have a work around for that. Many times I got messages from girls during college days and I'm not really a name-remembering type of a person, I mix names up a lot like for example I know 2 girls one called Sara the other called Menna, I can easily call each one of them with the other's name

Anyway, whenever she texts you, try to keep your words centred and focused only on the conversation. You don't need to start your message by Hi *Name*, Just say Hi how are you doing and keep going on. Also, you might want to try truecaller and look up her name, it worked for me in some emergency cases ^_^

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I would think that this was all normal, if it wasn't for her friends trying to embarrass her and acting silly. I definitely think she's into you based on that. Oh and most females think that they're supposed to wait a few days to text or call because they don't want to seem too eager! Women think that they're supposed to play hard to get to get a man's attention, because let's face it, most men like the chase.

While no one can give you a 100% answer either way, I'd say once she gets ahold of you, if she's still playing it cool then you should let her know you're interested. Or you could maybe flirt with her a little and gauge her reaction! Even if you aren't the guy she was talking about to her friends, if you show a little interest, maybe she'll take the bait and give you a chance to get to know her.

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Help! Is he interested in me or not?

Okay I've been seeing a guy every saturday for the past 3 weeks. This guy isn't much of a texter and he works full time and goes to school. The first date, we ate dinner together and he asked me if I had a boyfriend, which showed me he was interested in seeing me. The Second date, we watched a movie and kissed a little bit. The third date, we watched a movie at his place, then had sex, but afterward he gave me his clothes to wear and we listened to music and watched tv together in which he allowed me to snuggle with him. Also, when we went to sleep, I'm pretty sure he was sleeping in a spooning position with me ( I was in front while he lied closely behind me holding my hands and arms). However, he didn't ask me out, so I asked him, but he said he was busy this weekend. Since then, I ran into him three times this week (the first 2 encounters we talked briefly and the last time we said he to each other, but we were both a meeting). Has he lost interest in me and was a booty call or do you believe he is truly busy and just taking his time? am I jumping the gun and rushing too much (we only known each other for a month)? I'm just confused.

It's hard to tell. But if I were you, I wouldn't panic yet. After all, he hadn't been spending too much time with you before you had sex either. Maybe it's just the way he is. Don't do anything, let him make the next move.

I would say, let things cool off for a while and take it easy. Maybe he needs time to get to terms with your relationship. I would also advise you to let him make the next move and just wait it out and see where it all goes.

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Is he interested in me? He's always texting and saying certain things to me...

Hi,
So recently, a guy I'm very good friends with (and have known for a while) has been texting me frequently and recently, I've noticed his texts have been a lot more daring, and a lot of people would interpret them as flirting. He also includes several kisses on each text; now I know that might not mean anything, but several of my friends and even this guy never usually puts kisses on texts to just friends.

I was wondering if this is him trying to say he's interested in me? We regularly keep in contact and often hug, and he supported me when I've been down. He always wants to help me out if he can

An example would be that we were joking that he had declared war on me, so I said I'd kick him. His reply was that he'd pin me down, which I just put down to him being him. When I said that I'd bite if I had to, his reply was that he'd like it, which I didn't quite know what to make of. I do also know now that he split up with his girlfriend a while ago; just after when he'd met and got to know me.

I just don't know what to think; I do like him quite a lot, and he has been protective of me when he has seen others try it on with me - I think I'm attracted to him a lot, and don't know what to do. I don't want to ruin our friendship, but to me it feels like we more than best friends, but not quite there as neither of us has said anything more than what I'm sure we're doing now, which is flirting.

I don't know what to do! Is he interested at all in me? I don't have much experience with guys, as although I've been asked out by several different people, none of them I've been attracted to so I've turned them down (many of them were people I saw as only friends).

I'm so confused...

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Is She Interested? Should I Still Pursue Her?

I met a girl a few weeks ago at a gallery opening. So that you get a proper picture of the situation, I should mention there is a considerable age difference. I'm older. We seemed to hit it off and added each other on Facebook. A few days later I sent her some info on an artistic project of mine. She responded and thanked me. A couple of days later I sent her a message saying that I enjoyed talking to her, and would like to have lunch. About a day later she said that would be great.

On valentine's day I wished her a Happy Valentine's day. She thanked me and said happy valentine's as well.

A couple of days later, I asked her if she wanted to go to lunch that week.

A day later she responded that at her job they don't really take lunch. Everyone works through it. She said she would be happy to meet during the weekend or for a cup of coffee before work.

I decided to just ask her for dinner on a Saturday. But since her last message was on Friday, I thought one day's notice would not be sufficient, so I decided to wait until Sunday, two days after her last message, to ask her for dinner for the following Saturday.

So I left her the message, and 3 days passed and still no response. I was certain I had been ignored and rejected. On the 4th day she finally replied, and apologized because she only just saw my message. She said she had dinner plans for Saturday, and asked if we could do it another day. She said she could meet after work.

Does it sound like I have a shot?

I think so.. Now its depends on you.. when will you go to meet her that time you notice her response towards you so you can yourself imagine that she will interested in you or not.. Because she is cooperating you, but because of her job and time also doesn't match that's why you sit can mot meet her so I thing there will be a chance for you so just go ahead... Good Luck Buddy....

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Girl who seems interested in me didn't reply to my call?

We haven't met, contacted for a a long while and want to meet one day. Been talking through text to get to know each other so it's no huge deal, but I click with her.

Only in the past 3 months we have been flirting, she initiates conversations too and when we phoned a few of weeks ago, the phone conversation flew really well and she said "It was nice speaking to you :-) x" then sent me a text a few days later saying ":-) x"

But fast forwarding to last saturday, I sent a flirty text and she responded in a very playful and flirty way, so I said I'd phone her on the sunday (in a flirty way) but she mentioned she had work from 8pm to 7am so she wasn't sure when she would be awake, but that I could phone her at some point.

I decided to avoid in case she was tired and phoned Monday and got no answer, without realising she was out, she texted "Out for tea sorry x". I didn't reply to her text and phoned her instead 3 days later and got no answer, however noticed she made a couple of tweets on Twitter an hour later (when I was on Twitter myself).

The call didn't go to voicemail, it said "this number is currently unavailable", which was the same as the call earlier in the week when she replied with a text, but wondering whether she didn't get it or if it was a hint.

Should I just not bother contacting and let her instead? What if she didn't get my missed call and thinks I'm ignoring her text instead?

Exactly!

If you don't contact her you risk missing out on a nice meeting and something
which could develop. If you contact her, you'll at least know where you stand.

Exactly!

If you don't contact her you risk missing out on a nice meeting and something
which could develop. If you contact her, you'll at least know where you stand.

Thank you for the reply. Wasn't sure if it got through as she replied to my last missed call.. Thinking of texting Sunday and leaving it 2-3 days.

Good for you and I wish you all the luck!

Let us know how it turns out.

Good for you and I wish you all the luck!

Let us know how it turns out.

When I mentioned she was tweeting, she was on Twitter talking to her friend and was as if my missed call hadn't been acknowledged like last time, so I assumed either it never got through or she was throwing me a hint.

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Girl who seems interested in me didn't reply to my call?

We haven't met, contacted for a a long while and want to meet one day. Been talking through text to get to know each other so it's no huge deal, but I click with her.

Only in the past 3 months we have been flirting, she initiates conversations too and when we phoned a few of weeks ago, the phone conversation flew really well and she said "It was nice speaking to you :-) x" then sent me a text a few days later saying ":-) x"

But fast forwarding to last saturday, I sent a flirty text and she responded in a very playful and flirty way, so I said I'd phone her on the sunday (in a flirty way) but she mentioned she had work from 8pm to 7am so she wasn't sure when she would be awake, but that I could phone her at some point.

I decided to avoid in case she was tired and phoned Monday and got no answer, without realising she was out, she texted "Out for tea sorry x". I didn't reply to her text and phoned her instead 3 days later and got no answer, however noticed she made a couple of tweets on Twitter an hour later (when I was on Twitter myself).

The call didn't go to voicemail, it said "this number is currently unavailable", which was the same as the call earlier in the week when she replied with a text, but wondering whether she didn't get it or if it was a hint.

Should I just not bother contacting and let her instead? What if she didn't get my missed call and thinks I'm ignoring her text instead?

Exactly!

If you don't contact her you risk missing out on a nice meeting and something
which could develop. If you contact her, you'll at least know where you stand.

Exactly!

If you don't contact her you risk missing out on a nice meeting and something
which could develop. If you contact her, you'll at least know where you stand.

Thank you for the reply. Wasn't sure if it got through as she replied to my last missed call.. Thinking of texting Sunday and leaving it 2-3 days.

Good for you and I wish you all the luck!

Let us know how it turns out.

Good for you and I wish you all the luck!

Let us know how it turns out.

When I mentioned she was tweeting, she was on Twitter talking to her friend and was as if my missed call hadn't been acknowledged like last time, so I assumed either it never got through or she was throwing me a hint.

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