Hey guys, first off i'm sorry if this is in the wrong area. I wasn't sure where it fitted as its neither dating or getting back together in the traditional senses. I really need some advice on this as i'm fully confused and don't want to dig a bigger hole for myself. I'm also sorry for the essay.

A quick background, i met this girl through mutual friends and we started chatting which lead to a series of excellent dates. Having known of her before hand i knew she had scars in her past with ex boyfriends being unfaithful and even a case of domestic violence with at least one. It was going really well and despite a short amount of time we were meeting up regulary and although she wasn't one for texting alot.

Well then her best friend i can only assume decided to speed things up and start prompting me (i'm imagine her too) do things like send her a present for her birthday. This actually lead to a point where i then received a text off the best friend saying i had been too full on and that the girl was independant freaked her out. I sent the girl a message and apologised although left blaming the friends prompts out. She replied telling me "its ok, it just caught me off guard a bit. but if i'm honest i'm not sure i'm ready for dating or a relationship". I left it at that although sent her a message now and again asking how she was which she'd reply and ask how i was. I'd started to assume all was a lost cause and that i'd have to live with it.

Then last night (new years eve) i saw her while out with one group of my friends, she was very very drunk. She kept on talking to me, grabbing my hand and holding it when we moved to different pubs, as well as hugging me at one point for a while. She started feeling ill so i said i'd walk her down to the taxi rank as she couldnt walk well. On the way down we held hands and i apologised again for being too full on and said it was great to see her again, but i also told her how her friend had warned me off. Her reply shocked me as she said her friend was talking a load of rubbish, she'd really enjoyed going out with me and that her message was because she's used to guys who want to beat her up and just use her, not send her flowers for her birthday like i had.

After thinking about it, i decided today to send her a message asking how she was feeling and if she wanted to hang out sometime when she was free. Her reply was pretty generic, which wasn't uncommon even when we were dating. To the invite to hang out she said "can do, but i'm not sure when i'm free yet as i haven't got my rota for work".

I'm a bit confused as to how to proceed as while its not a firm no, the fact she isn't one for getting in contact makes me wonder if ill be told when she has got free time. Anyone got any advice on how to proceed with this, or really what i could be missing here?