Oh WOW. What a story. Gosh, if only Ryan hadn't twisted your words and messed things up with George to begin with, it sounds like George might have been a good bet for you. Now everything is so complicated.

Okay, here's what I think: You need to start fresh with someone else and leave these two guys as friends. There's too much water under the bridge for all of you. Even if things smooth out with one of these guys and you get married, they're always going to be looking over their shoulder for the other one to come around and spoil everything. At the very least, they'll always remember your fondness for the other guy and suspect you're not 100 percent in the relationship. No, that won't make for a happy marriage. You need to get away and make for a fresh start.

Plus Ryan and the suicide attempt, that's a big red flag. Keep him as a friend only. I have lots and lots of sympathy for him, but you don't want to invite the mental health issues into your married life (and potential children) if you can avoid it.

You deserve so much better. Get out there, meet new people, and find a new man. I know there is someone else out there for you who is going to make you happy!