This is a long story so Ill try to keep it short.
Ive know this Cappy for over a year now. We dated at first and it was full on..he stayed over a lot and even though he didnt show it in a usual romantic sense (which i would be used to) I knew he was falling for me.
I was out of a 8 year relationship and when he pulled back, i got really clingy and scared him. He decided its better we just be friends.
I agreed but decided to stay away from him. over a few months he would get back in touch and we met for a drink a couple of times. During these times he was flirty and things seemed to be going well (as I though maybe we could give it a shot)

A couple of months ago, he was really full on with me even buying me a gift when he went away for the weekend.
I fell for him again big time... and unfortunately i couldnt hide. I blurted it out after a few drinks that I have feelings for him, I cared for him...he said the feeling is mutual and he told me that he just wants to be friends..
I was distraught.
I kept my distance again but we had plans to go to a few gigs together months back so ended up seeing each other every weekend together over the whole month.

I felt like I was doing all the work...initiating contact etc.
So i gave him his space.

The last time I saw him, he met my sister and we hung out for a few days. He asked me to go eat, then when he was leaving he wanted to make plans to meet again. I said id be in touch.

I got in touch that week and he went cold again....So i left him to it.
For four weeks i heard nothing. I tried to stop texting but I would end up just checking in on him maybe once every ten days or so (only reason for this being that I heard Cappys can get a bit down and they like to know you're thinking of them) and he would always get back to me.

Anyway, last week i could see on social media he was going to an event that me & my friend were going to but he never said anything to me. He then texted me that day and said he was going down to it but his friend cancelled on him and he was on his own ...naturally I offered for him to go with me (i know this story about his friend isnt true!)

We hung out as normal and I thought great, this could really work now as friends, maybe he will make more of an effort! he left the next day & said about meeting the next day. He didnt make plans though....

He also took my sunglasses with him without telling me. (im so angry about this as i want them back!)

Anyway, that was last week, I sent him a message with a comedy thing that he might like, he saw it ignored it then sent a msg to another girl about the same comedy thing and hes ignoring me again!?

I dont understand this behaviour. Why is he doing this? We are only supposed to be friends.

I just really want to know is will i say something to him about making an effort or will i just play it cool?