Tuesday, January 7, 2014

Insecurity: What's causing it ?

Love and Relationship Advice Forum

I've known him for a year and a half. For a year we just had sex because none of us wanted this to work out..He was still in love with his ex, they were together for a year. She was his age she had a child (she was only 19) with her ex husband that died and then met my boyfriend afterwards, He was seriously in love with her. They met while he was at college and she lived there. But he had to go back home to find a job after he finished his studies so they split because of the distance. Well then he joined the army for a year. Then he met me. We were nothing like a couple. Because, well I didn't feel that something about him. And he told me he was still in love with her. Anyways, they met after a month and obviously slept together for the last time. That was a year and a half ago. So we decided we just have sex and nothing more. I was so cold i wouldn't feel anything he got mad at times for my coldness. Which is strange for me because i'm usually a very sensitive person when it comes to love. I wasn't in love with him. I left him many times within a year 6 to be specific dating other people cause i wanted to fall in love. But i was always returning to him. He dated a couple of girls as well but didn't work out and came back to whatever we had. We had no pressure in our thing, no jealousy, no hard times. Well, summer arrived and i went to visit my parents( I'm studying at his place and had vacation on summer). I kissed somebody during summer and he got really jealous and mean when i told him. When i came back,i don't know what happened, but after a while we ended being in a relationship. We didn't have a serious talk but It was a thing I just knew. And everybody else could see there was something special between us. And he is telling everyone we are a couple, even met his family. What you should know about me is that I have tried to be in a relationship and fall in love but i couldn't bare this, lying to someone about my feelings, pretend to be in love, and i hate to hurt people but i could not pretend and lie to myself so i was always the one to leave. It is only him i feel different, i don't know if i'm in love but i do want this to work. What bothers me is something that happened about a month ago. He left his facebook page open and i saw the messages. He was talking with his ex i mentioned above. And with another girl they used to have sex years back she was in love with him but he wasn't and now he was having that naughty talk with her and she even asked him to meet but he couldn't because of the distance as he said. Also, he had all of his exes at his favorite friends list and always liking their pictures and everything. I told him about this, and he said he was sorry and that was along time ago and i shouldn't worry because he loves me. We were talking about this for a long time because well i can't forget easily. Today i saw he keeps liking his exes pictures. Especially that one with the child. And that bothers me. He says they are not talking but how can that be possible when he likes her pictures? Maybe they're talking on skype or texting on their phones or even call each other who knows. He also wears a hand watch that she gave him, a sweater she gave him, and his wallet, all gifts from her. THAT bothers me. But I haven't told him. This thing i have with him is full of insecurities on my side. I'm afraid some day he needs to go somewhere for work he will meet them..Please, I need some advice this whole thing really upsets me..
Last edited by terriusblanks; Yesterday at 11:58 PM.
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