Hey everyone. First time poster, first time trying anything like this, so please be kind.

I met this girl on OkCupid who I really, really like. We have so much in common it's ridiculous. We even have the same birthday (how crazy is that?). So we met up at an open mic night (we're both musicians), had a great time together with easy conversation, all the right physical signs (eye contact, leaning in during conversation, etc) and it seemed like the night went really well. I followed the rules and waited a couple of days before calling her and asking her out on a second date. She eagerly said yes and we set a date.

Second date, I picked her up, opened doors for her, and was generally a perfect gentleman. We did the whole dinner and a movie thing. Again, the conversation was easy, she laughed at my jokes, was smiling the whole time, and during the movie leaned in close to me. I put my arm around her and she didn't try to escape. All good signs, I thought. On the drive back home, I let her know that she had really brightened my day and that it had been a pretty rough day at work...I'd actually lost my job that morning, but still wanted to go out with her despite feeling like canceling. Maybe I shouldn't have shared that. I tend to run my mouth when I'm nervous or want to impress someone. But she was really sympathetic and encouraging. The news didn't seem to affect her negatively in any way.

So I dropped her off, and we hugged goodnight. The next day she texts me thanks for the great date even though I'd had a bad day. I called her again in a couple of days to schedule our next date and she doesn't answer. The next day she texts me thanks for the date, for your initiative, for being a gentleman, but "I don't see it progressing on my end". Have a nice life.

I don't know what happened. Was it because of the job thing? Maybe I just didn't read the signs right and she wasn't feeling any chemistry? I certainly felt it. Was I too nice on our date? Does gentleman = boring/unsuitable mate? Help me out here. I've never made it past the second date with a girl I was interested in and took the initiative to pursue. I'd like to avoid making the same mistakes in the future.

...and most importantly, is there any way to salvage this wreck? I'm really into this girl and need to know if it's possible for anything to happen between us at this point or if it's a total loss. Thanks for any insight you can provide.