Is He Stringing Me Along?

So I was dating this guy for about 7 months, things were pretty good between us for a while, we really connected and hit it off in every way. The only problem was, he never wanted to go out, whenever he hung out with his friends, I wasn't invited (I respect guy time, but not when I KNOW other girls are there and that he is bringing one of his female friends instead of me), whenever he wanted to party (get drunk, do drugs, just get faded in general) he wouldn't tell me what was going on until a day or two after. Then, that same female fried that I know he has been taking to hangout with his work buddies and other friends instead of me decided to cuss me out on day because she "thought" I had yelled at her significant other, in which I hadn't and everyone involved was more or less on my side about it but she got in my face, acted nasty and screamed for about 30 minutes while him and her s/o tried to console her when she went to hide in the bathroom after I finally told her to fuck off, he never once made any effort to tell her to stop treating me like that, he apologized to me for her actions afterward and then we just went to sleep without her really receiving and reprocutions for her actions at all. He would tell me every day about all his work buddies and shit they did and talked about, like, the tiniest little things! but when it came to his female friends/work buddies, he more or less kept them secret until I would find out and then they were still never really mentioned again. Well, among other reasons, I ended up breaking up with him. I did it in a very cold manner, through text. However, I didn't want it to be a permanent break-up, just a "let's fix some of our issues that could potential destroy our relationship and maybe try to pick it back up in the future again" thing. He ended up calling me, we tried to talk till he got frustrated and hung up, this kept on for two days while I was trying to explain to him why I broke up with him and what my intention were/are. He finally cussed me out one night and just acted really mean so I ignored his calls for a while and gave him a week to cool down and chill before I tried to explain things to him again (he wanted the explanation, I wasn't trying to force it on him) but once we started talking, it just seemed like he didn't even want to try and comprehend what I was trying to say, he said he wanted to try and make things work but I ended up making the stupid mistake of sleeping with him after we started talking. He tells me he needs time and space and in the mean time we have been hanging out with separate people, he seems to be hanging out with certain females that I did not particuarly care for during the relationship, a lot more often now. He tells me he wants to still talk while he is trying to heal and still come see me, but he is just so harsh to me sometimes when we talk, I have trying to do everything he asked but he just seems so hot and cold and I just don't know what he wants, I tried just talking to him earlier, talking about random banter, and he makes a comment about me talking to him like he's "just a homie", I don't get it, he wants space and time but wants me to still act like a girlfriend, just without the title or sense of respect a girlfriend would normally receive? What the fuck do I do? >_<

The one thing you need to do is stop waiting around for this guy. I won't say he is stringing you along but he definitely wants to have his cake and eat it too. He wants to have a girlfriend that stays at home and does nothing at all while he hangs out with his friends all of the time. That's not fair to you and to be honest I think he's hiding some things from you. Since you have already broken up what he's hiding is not supremely important to find out but this seems like a guy who would prefer to have his previous situation with you to just go back to the way things were before instead of making a legitimate effort to try to change his ways to have a better relationship.

I would leave this guy alone and stop trying to have a relationship with him. If he cared about you he would be honest and try to see where you're coming from. The fact that he's hiding stuff and being shady in general should be a red flag. He sounds like he's using you if he expects you to act like a girlfriend but doesn't actually treat you like a girlfriend in return.

"Twenty of 'em wrapped up tight in silk"
- Lana Del Rey ; Hundred Dollar Bill (Unreleased Track)

Thanks guys, I appreciate you're advice and opinions, I did, however, break it off with him before reading them, but for the same reasons you gave to do so, Thanks again, this was a good first time experience posting on this forum! ^_^

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