Advice please.

So first post here.

This might be a bit long but here it is.

So there was this girl who worked at the same company as me, we didnt work together, i never had any dealings with here, i hardly ever saw her to be honest. I was always a attracted to her, looks wise shes pretty much my ideal type. Anyway she left but a month or so before she did i had to have some dealings with her so i atleast got to speak to her for a bit. She left and that was that.

So a few months back we had some work drinks and she came along, i spent pretty much the whole night with her, we got on really well, had a laugh, she commented that she liked my look. A few people back at work commented that she seemed "quite keen". Thing is she has a boyfriend so i took it as just being friendly, i sent her a couple of pretty standard chit chat messages on facebook as i dont have her number or anything and left it as that.

Anyway we went out again for someones birthday and she came, again i spent a fair bit of time chatting to her, dancing ect. She told me how its not going to well with her boyfriend, didnt sound like it was going to last to much longer. Anyway end of the night she said bye gave me a kiss and went.

We get on quite well, same age (mid 20s).

Normally i wouldn't even think about it as shes in a relationship and has been for a couple of years i think, i know it may be wrong but i do really like her, i cant stop thinking about it. I have no idea if shes intrested or just teasing. Do i tell her how i feel? Do i wait and see if it does end with her boyfriend as im sure i'll find out? Im a bit confused.

Advice?

I'd wait until her boyfriend was out of the picture

I'd wait until her boyfriend was out of the pictureVery sound advice here. Keep your hands off her until she's available. Available as in freely available. Just because she's being friendly doesn't mean that you should abuse her friendliness.

I think she's lining you up as first reserve while she decides what to do about the boyfriend. If she was really interested in you, she would have dumped him by now. Don't make a move until he's completely out of the picture - that's the honourable thing to do. Besides, if she cheats on him, she could also cheat on you. If you're going to make a relationship with her, start it properly, not in the shadows.

I agree that you should just wait and observe. You can be friendly, but I wouldn't do anything else as long as she is in a relationship. She clearly likes you, but for sure she is also very confused and she doesn't know what to do. Do you know what happened between her and her boyfriend?

Last edited by claudine; Yesterday at 08:43 PM.

I agree that you should just wait and observe. You can be friendly, but I wouldn't do anything else as long as she is in a relationship. She clearly likes you, but for sure she is also very confused and she doesn't know what to do. Do you know what happened between her and her boyfriend?No i don't, i didn't wanna go into to much detail, i think its just not really going anywhere from the sounds of it.

I agree that you should just wait and observe. You can be friendly, but I wouldn't do anything else as long as she is in a relationship. She clearly likes you, but for sure she is also very confused and she doesn't know what to do. Do you know what happened between her and her boyfriend?I dont see her much, only on the odd occasion. Sometimes the odd Facebook message which sometimes she dont reply to and other times theres loads. I dunno if i should just leave it completely and see if i hear anything on the BF thing, or carry on with the odd friendly hows it going type message?

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