Single And Fabulous! [EXPERT]

Being single is not a bad thing! Embrace being single & enjoy loving yourself & working on yourself!

Being single is an awesome thing! I know we have been conditioned to be in a relationship at all times and pretend to be happy with the person who is just there, because you don't want to be alone. But throw that ideology out of your mind! Being single is a fabulous thing and it gives you time and experience to know who you are and what you want!

Women are often afraid if they aren't in a relationship or have never been in a successful relationship that they are doomed for failure for the rest of their lives. But that is simply not true! Having relationships that don't work out are great learning experiences and you learn so much about yourself and how you handled that failed relationship and you should accept that information and experience and process it so it doesn't become a pattern in future relationships!

Some people are just simply not ready to be in an exclusive relationship with someone and that is why they screw up relationships with their significant others. Such as being too jealous or being too clingy or even arguing over things that are so stupid that you wonder afterwards, why you were even fighting? These patterns you set with that person will continue until you fix your insecurities in yourself! Especially new relationships! If you start a pattern of fighting over little things or being jealous that they are out with their friends without you; these issues will continue to be an issue in your relationship, because you have set the bar so high for your partner that they are afraid to do anything wrong! And who wants to feel like they are stepping on egg shells around someone they like or love?

Being single gives men and women time to realize what they are looking for in themselves not just in a partner, but in life itself. Such as a career, family life, or even if they are happy with their habits or personalities. Everyone always has something to work on with themselves and it is better to figure out those things you want to change before you are in a relationship with someone! That way you don't have to continue to check yourself of old patterns with a new person you are dating. 

If you have watched the show Miss Advised and saw Julia Allison jump on that guy to try to kiss her. I cringed at the desperation she was throwing at this guy! And the girl in New York Amy Laurent, who was upset because the guy did not text her in a timely manner, when they had only had one date! These things are unacceptable when you are dating new people! It will scare them too death and they will run and break things off with you!

But by being single and secure in who you are first and foremost is the most important! That way you can know immediately if someone will work with you and if they don't you can move on sooner than wasting your time and theirs! Life is short! Too short to be with the wrong person for you and to regret spending that time with that person for longer than necessary!

Author, Dating Coach, Life Coach, Matchmaker, Mediator, Personal Development Coach, Relationship Coach, Sex Coach, Sex Educator, Speaker/Presenter, Wellness Coach

Christy Goldstein

Come check out my articles at http://luvandrelationships.com/category/advice-columns/trials-and-tribulations-of-dating-christy

Specialties: Dating/Being Single Support, Empowering Women, Sex Therapy

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