She nags me about my weight

I'm not a real big guy, to put in nicely i'm husky ( 5'10 185-190). A lot of times i work late, so on my way home, i just figure it's late, so i grab Taco Bell, when i get home she gets annoyed and goes off about weight gain and cholesterol etc. Another example, it was Christmas dinner, so i finish my first plate and as i'm going back up for round 2 she looks at me "do you really think you need seconds?" I didn't get a 2nd plate. And finally, it was New Years Day, i'm settling down to watch football all day and i've brought all the good stuff, wings, oreos, popcorn, Mountain Dew, chips etc she came home from Target after returning a dress. She goes off on me " Its all junk, you can you eat that it's so bad for you, you'll end up obese". I'm 18 as is she, i run at least 4 miles a day, my metabolism is fine. She's big health nut( organic only type also Turkey burgers are horrible). I want her to stop nagging me, i love her and i appreciate that she's looking out for me but i think at 18 i can make my own decisions on what i eat. Suggestions on how to talk to her??

Have you talked to her at all about it? Is she actually concerned about your health?

Maybe just let her know that you're an adult and can make your own decisions. Tell her that you appreciate her concern and that you'll try to eat healthier in general, but that it's okay to indulge every so often and you'd appreciate her not giving you crap constantly about it.

I think she just worries about you. She loves you, she wants you to be healthy, this is why she is overreacting. It means that you are important to her, so don't be so annoyed Just talk to her, tell her it bothers you when she is so controlling.

I think sometimes there is a lot more to a story than people actually say but, going with what you have shared with us... if it is bothering you than, talk to her. I agree you are old enough to make your own decisions and she is not your mother, she can't tell you what to do. However, be careful with all these junk food your eating because it is not healthy nor it is good for you. If you are just doing it every now and then that's okay but, if you are doing it on a daily basis then this could bring serious problems to your health in the future. If you are going to taco bell every night after work or a lot more often than you should, maybe you need to think about what this can do to your health.

I wouldn't go as far as to think that she is just nagging and being mean, i think that she is also concerned about you. Lets face it, living a lifestyle were you eat a lot more than you should and a lot of junk food can result in cholesterol, heart problems and many other things. When you are young is not as bad but, as you get older it gets worse. Make sure your are not over doing it and that you are eating healthy, after all it is for your own good.

You both are young (18) and have your whole life ahead of you. She does care for you, but she isn't saying it in a way that comes across as that. It is coming across as nagging. Yes, it is fine to have Oreos, hot wings, and soda occasionally, but when you make it your daily diet (stopping and getting fast food every night) will definitely mess with your body. Since it is the new year, why not incorporate SOME healthier foods in your diet. Have food ready to heat up when you get home instead of stopping at Taco Bell. If you must stop, get something healthy. Little changes will go a long way to show her you care, and perhaps to get her to change the way she speaks to you. Ask her to help you prepare healthy food choices and snacks that taste good. Granted, they will not taste the SAME, but they will taste good. Good luck to you.

I agree with everyone that it may sound like nagging but it probably isn’t. What she’s doing is stating something that bothers her about the way you take care of yourself. Clearly she’s opposite of you in this regard. But while you call her a health nut she is actually probably used to eating healthy and is suddenly thrust into a world of greasy fast food. Maybe she sees the wrappers daily, or leftovers in the fridge. You do need to talk to her but be clear about what it is you want to tell her. Do you want her to stop telling you to eat that stuff or are you going to say nagging? Will you suggest that you’re going to cut back on fast food or are you going to say your old enough to eat whatever? Each of these can spin a conversation into completely different directions. Be clear about what you want to say and then be sure to listen to her point before you try to interject your rebuttal. Or else it’ll look like you’re not listening at all.

There are certain keywords that she said that makes me think she is worried about you. She said "cholesterol" and "bad for you" not fat ass or pig. So I think she's worried about your health. She wants you to be around for a long time and not have a stroke in your 20's like actor Frankie Muniz recently did. Her heart is basically in the right place.

You can tell her that you want to make your own decisions about your food, but maybe to make her feel better, you can switch out a couple of your meals with healthier choices. I hate turkey burgers too, but sometimes I ate them to appease my ex and keep peace in the household. You can still eat the foods you like, but maybe just eat something healthy now and then to show her that you're making an effort to compromise.

Well, you do seem to be eating a lot of junk food. Even if you're not gaining weight, it doesn't mean it's okay. My ex husband was built like a racing snake, but he ate a lot of junk food and didn't take any exercise. He was underweight if anything, but he still had two heart attacks because of blocked arteries due to the cholesterol from his diet. The second one killed him, at the age of 57. Is that what you want for yourself? You're young now, but the damage is already being done on the inside, even though it may not show on the outside.

Yes, you could call out your girlfriend for nagging you. You could even break up with her and find someone to share your oreos and chicken wings on the couch. However, it won't address the problem of your unhealthy eating habits. Yes, you're an adult - and it's time you took responsibility for yourself and your health.

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