How do I go about Finding a Date if I'm in my 30s inexperienced and disabled?

The typical women around my age are usually not disabled, they are ambitious, have careers, are social and mature. But i'm not that due to disabilities. I have something like aspergers. If i wanted to start dating(which i do), is there even anything i can do?

Nondisabled Women are not interested in mentally disabled men. I can barely talk and Women think men who don't talk and don't have careers are worthless.

I know some of you will say that I have to get an equally disabled Girl. But do I have to? Don't i have the right to date women who i like?

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The other problem is also even knowing where to go to meet women that will likely be accepting and nice.
The usual cafes and stuff are not good for disabled people. Because most people there are not disabled and don't want to associate with disabled people. Same thing for clubs, and all the typical avenues where people meet.
Cafes, schools, libraries, public transportation. Women will not take a disabled guy seriously as someone they want to keep in touch with . And note that i'm not talking about Guys in WHeelchairs who are perfect speakers. I'm talking about mental cognitive difficulties

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In that case you need an opportunity to show the person you are behind the disability. Try online dating there it is less difficult not to find someone who can love you for who you are, as long as you will be patient and be as honest as possible.

But where do i even go to Meet Women? Women that are most likely to be accepting. Cause like i said, women that go to Cafes, parties, clubs, schools, are not there desiring to meet disabled guys.

A dating site is probably the best place to look. I'm sorry to hear you've had trouble your whole life with a disability, but you can find love. Just because you have something like asperger, doesn't mean you can't find a woman. You have to look at the world and not worry about what other people think. I know that may be hard, but it can be done. We as humans, look at ourselves from the other person's perspective, stop doing that, look at them as just another person in this ever expansive world and remember that many people you will meet, you will never see again.

I have social anxiety myself, but I try to not focus on my problems, and not to worry about what may or may not be going on in the mind of someone else. Try online dating, or go to a bar and just talk to women you find attractive. Put yourself out there.

I would agree with most here- try a dating site. That way the person can get to know you from the inside OUT..instead of judging you on your disability first. Be upfront and honest with who you meet and what you are capable of and what you are looking for. The right person is out there for each of us. With a little patience and persistence- you will find love too.

I don't think you have to stick with only disabled women. A dating site would be a good choice, as long as you are honest. But, that is advice I'd give to anyone -- if you do this, you'll probably learn quickly that people aren't exactly saints on there, and it's frustrating to try and sift through that.

As far as where to meet women? What do you do? What types of women do you like? What are your hobbies?

Get out there and start doings stuff, volunteer or anything, and you'll find someone.

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a dilemma from someone inexperienced

Ok I'll try to make the story short.

I usually wouldn't ask for help, but I really need it this time around.

First of all, I am not trying to be cocky or anything... but let me say that out of all dates so far, the girls usually initiate... so I've absolutely NO EXPERIENCE asking a girl out

Second, I am in professional school, where our class is relatively small... so If I do ask this girl out and s*** falls apart... it is going to be VERY AWKWARD for the next 3 years

Lastly, I have no problem talking to random chicks @ bars and clubs (well, I guess alcohol helps) and actually, I have no problem talking normally to this girl I like. But whenever the conversation is about dating/relationships, I either blank out or say something completely stupid... she just makes me flutter like that

I guess what I want to ask on here is how would I "test" the waters? I am not sure if she feels the same way, I THINK she does, but what the hell would I know b/c she's so damn nice to everyone
Here are some signs I guess?
1. after a class gathering (most ppl left), I talked to her for a good 2-3 hours alone (this is what sparked my interest in her)
2. she would sometimes walk with me on the way home, even though its a bit out of her way
3. she asked me if I only dated girls of my ethnicity
(here is the stupid thing on my part... I said NO, and did not follow it up with anything... I want to ask her the same thing now but its been like a week so It is going to seem so random)

I did drop some hints here and there like sitting next to her in class everyday and what not, but I guess shes not the kind to initiate so that's why I gotta do it

Im usually pretty confident but whenever i'm around this girl I just cant think straight.... helllllp -_-

PS. I NEVER asked her if she had a boyfriend, I dont think so b/c she never brings anything about a bf up but i cannot be sure. What is a good way to ask SUBTLY lol

I say subtly b/c of the same class dilemma, I don't want to cross that line if she does have a boyfriend, I need something to fall back on so it wont be awkward as hell

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