It doesn't have to be intimidating to re-enter into the dating world after divorce! By Divorce Detox's Allison Pescosolido, M.A. & Andra Brosh, Ph.D. for GalTime.com
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It's intimidating to re-enter into the dating world after divorce. For many, the absolute scariest part of getting out there and meeting men is the need to begin flirting again.
The first thing to remember about flirting after divorce is that flirting is a harmless way to gauge another person's interest in conversing with you. You are not committing to a lifelong connection or even a date. You are simply deciding in a few moments whether you may enjoy this person's company. If you both like each other, you may continue to flirt and eventually talk. If you don't like the person, you may simply end the conversation politely and walk away.
Flirting 101
Practice builds confidence. Before you start flirting in public, get in front of a mirror and see how you look. Experiment with different smiles and poses to see which is the most inviting. Try conveying warmth with your eyes and see the difference it can make. Once you feel confident in front of the mirror, graduate to flirting with random strangers you encounter throughout your day.
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All you have to do is glance at the person and smile. If he glances back and smiles as well, you may approach. Introduce yourself, and maintain eye contact for a few moments. Offer a simple, open-ended observation such as, "Isn't this weather wonderful?" Let the conversation go in any direction, but make sure you pay attention to what the other person is saying.
Body Language
Your gut instinct will be your best indication of how the flirting is going, yet sometimes nerves or insecurities can get in your way of making a proper assessment. Body language plays an important role in flirting and can be quite revealing. Some cues that your subject would like to continue flirting are:
Turning their body toward youTouching your armSmilingMaintaining eye contactLaughingMore obvious flirts may throw their head back as they laugh, play with their hair or lick their lips. More shy flirts may look down, fidget or shift their weight, but they will continue to maintain an interest in speaking to you. If you both continue the conversation without encountering negative cues, your subject is most likely interested.
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Conversation
As you flirt, smile often and keep the conversation light. Talk about the weather, a hobby, sports, etc. Do not get too personal. Questions about religion, children, past relationships and emotions are not typically welcome in flirting.
