"There is someone special for everyone." Every relationship expert will tell you this prodigious line. True to their word, there is someone special out there for all of us. Love has been said to bring forth surreal emotions of happiness, peace and tranquility. Why do we need love? Must we be in a relationship for us to be happy? How do you know if you haven found the one?
All these are questions that each us asks ourselves when we are lonely. Meeting that special someone can make us nervous. Lanky preparations mentally and physically may lead to a wrong presentation of our true selves. Avoiding this is crucial and the following tips are important to remember.*
Meeting a person for the first time can be nerve-wrecking hence why it is important to always look your best. Physical appearance is what appeals to a stranger for the first time. Neat hair, clean shoes and a well groomed man will seem more responsible while a decently dressed lady appears as a respectable lady.
Other things to look for during the initial meeting are virtues of kindness, respect and enthusiasms. For instance, does he pull out that chair for you? Does she smile or are you feeling uncomfortable?
Upon getting acquainted, this is the inception of a relationship and requires commitment, honesty and time. Work to build and learn about each other. What makes the other person angry? Happy, daily habits and are they tolerable or intolerable? Try living with each other for a while to determine this.*
Mentioned here are some basic things to invest in when building a stable relationship. In essence, take time to know each other, explore and infiltrate each other taking note of behaviors that may seem perplexing and stupendous.
The good always comes before the worst according to relationships experts. As such, it is vital to explore each others interests learning likes and dislikes. Such lessons help in identifying what interests to pursue together to make each other happy. Learning to apologize is a great way to keep a relationship healthy and strong.
Even though some relationship experts describe this as "weakness" in the male gender, it is the bonding factor among many couples. The art of saying sorry also acts as a healing rift during heated arguments. Such actions build trust and shows responsibility and maturity in relationships. This is considered the basis of laying a solid foundation for healthy and long lasting relationships.
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Saturday, February 2, 2013
Where Should You Meet Men? 5 Factors To Consider [EXPERT]

I got an email from a colleague about a friend who wanted to enter the dating world after her recent divorce. She wanted to know the best places she could meet single men. I told her that it's not a one-size-fits-all formula. Much of it depends on the individual.
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For each of my clients, I create an individually crafted dating plan. In order to find love, the following ingredients ought to be considered:
1. Your personality. Are you an extrovert, comfortable in large groups? Do you meet people easily? Or are you shy and reserved? Do you feel more comfortable in smaller groups? If it's the latter, online dating may be your best bet.
2. Your energy level. Are you an energetic person who is always on the go? Or are you someone who needs downtime especially after a day's work?
3. The time of year. Where you meet a potential love interest depends on the time of year. The best time for online dating is January and Febraury. During spring, summer and early fall biking and hiking groups are popular ways to meet singles.
4. Your work situation. I take into account my clients' work life when creating their dating plan. Are you with people all day in a very busy, hectic environment (think sales manager of a retail store) or are you working all day by yourself on a computer as a software developer?
5. Your interests. Of course you want to meet people who share your interests. It may not be a deal breaker if your partner doesn't like bird-watching, however, it would be an added bonus if you do share this interest with your special person.
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What do you take into account when you are deciding where to go to meet singles? What has worked best for you? Sound off in the comments!
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I work with marriage minded individuals who are ready to take charge of their dating efforts and learn a system of how to meet people who share their values so that they can find the right one and have the family life they so desire.
Friday, October 26, 2012
3 Things To Consider Before Sleeping With Your Boyfriend [EXPERT]
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It's no surprise that most people engage in premarital sex, but one new study found that even if we look at surveys going back for decades, we see the same prevalence of the behavior.
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Very few people actually wait until marriage to have sex — less than 10%, according to Lawrence Finer, research director at the Guttmacher Institute. That's been going on since the 1950s, contrary to the common belief that couples were more chaste back then.
Yes, it's normal to have sex before marriage, meaning that almost everyone does it. After all, there are few things more tempting than the urge to make love with the new guy you're falling madly in love with. But is it healthy?
As with all great questions, the answer is: it depends. Here are the factors that make this normal behavior either healthy — or not — for you and your relationship.
1. Age at first sexual experience. A new study from the University of Texas at Austin suggests that individuals who have their first sexual experience later than average may have more satisfying romantic relationships in adulthood. According to the study, individuals who waited to have sex beyond age 19 reported less conflict, more enjoyment, and greater love and affection with their partners.
The younger you are when you have sex for the first time the less likely you are to have stable relationships later in life. Because teenage relationships are inherently unstable (how can you know who you want to be with for the rest of your life at age 16?), most of them break up, often abruptly. The resulting trauma tends to be lasting because you are not yet as emotionally resilient as you will be as an adult.
The other risk with teenage sex is learning unhealthy patterns of relating. Due to the immaturity of partners at that age, it's likely that you will ride the emotional roller coaster up and down with the drama of being "on" one week and "off" the next. This creates highs and lows not unlike the ones associated with drug use. Because the brain is still forming as a teenager, you can cement an impression that this is "normal" for relationships, causing you to seek partners later in life with whom you re-create that instability. Sometimes that leads to a syndrome called Love Addiction.
Last, but not least, young people tend to be less informed about sexual health, resulting in teen pregnancies and the transmission of STDs. The bottom line is this: do your best to put off being sexual until at least age nineteen, for the best overall life and relationship outcomes. Regardless of the age at which you begin having sex, the next piece of advice will help you make better decisions about your sexual relationships.
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2. How long you date your partner before having sex. The longer you date before having sex, the more likely you will get to the stage of emotional commitment prior to being sexual. Studies show that the higher the level of commitment, the greater the overall relationship satisfaction. That finding is especially true for women.
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