Showing posts with label Almost. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Almost. Show all posts

Friday, September 2, 2011

The Night I Almost Got Arrested (Something Else Happened Too)

We were walking along the shores of Lake Michigan, bellies full of food from one of Chicago’s best Italian restaurants, when Ben looked around, and then stopped abruptly and took my hand.

“K.?” he said, his voice unsteady. He fumbled around in his jacket pocket, and when he found the little black box, he lowered himself onto one knee.

“K.,” he repeated. He looked nervous. My heart was pounding out of my chest, and I was dangerously close to crying. “Meeting you changed my life, and if you’ll have me, I want to spend the rest of it with you. Will you marry me?”

I had known it was coming, but hadn’t realized the enormity of the emotions I’d be feeling when it did. I immediately began sobbing.

“Yes!” I said when I caught my breath. Ben stood up, and I could see that his eyes were wet as well. “Yes!” I repeated again. He grabbed me in a giant bear hug and we stood there, crying and ecstatic, for what felt like a full 10 minutes.

“This calls for champagne,” Ben said. He led me back to Cara’s car which was parked nearby, where he opened the trunk and pulled out a blanket, bottle of bubbly, and two glasses. We giddily walked back to the beach, spread out the blanket on the sand, popped the cork, and toasted.

“To you saying yes,” Ben said, raising his glass. “And making me the happiest man in the world.”

“To you asking me to marry you,” I said, clinking my glass with his. “And making me the happiest woman in the world.”

“I feel like I need to make a joke to counteract all of this sappy sweet stuff,” he said. “But I got nothin’.”

I laughed, and he continued. “You know, my original plan was blanket and champagne first, and then propose while we were sitting here, but I got too excited and jumped the gun. Was it a good proposal?”

“It was,” I said, nestling into his arm. We drank our champagne in a happy silence, half-snuggling on the blanket.

“You know, I’ve been carrying that ring around pretty much constantly since New Zealand,” he said. “I’ve almost proposed to you about 100 times.”

I was about to tell him I loved him, again, when we were interrupted.

“You can’t do that here,” a voice boomed. We looked up to see a police officer hovering over us. He didn’t look happy. “No open containers on the beach,” he continued. “Get rid of it.”

“Sorry officer,” Ben said, getting to his feet and helping me up. We hurriedly gathered up our stuff and walked to the car. The cop followed behind.

“Who’s driving?” he demanded. Ben said he was, and then the officer made him do a breathalyzer before we got in the car! He passed, of course (he only had a few sips of champagne).

“Next time I see you two with alcohol on the beach, I’m arresting you on the spot,” he said. We got in the car and drove back to Cara’s apartment.

“I’m pretty sure we’re the only people who almost got arrested right after a marriage proposal,” I pointed out on the drive.

“We’re pretty badass,” Ben said with a smile, taking my hand and kissing it.

We’re engaged! Oh yeah, and we did some sightseeing, too. Chicago’s pretty cool and I could totally live there. Also, we’re engaged! Ah!

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Tuesday, May 31, 2011

Almost Dropping the Marriage Bomb

When I got out of work today, I had a voicemail from Little Brother.

“Hey K. Just calling to invite you and Ben down next weekend for Easter. Emma keeps saying ‘ca ca,’ which I’m pretty sure means, “Why doesn’t Aunt K. ever come to visit me? Does she hate me?”

I laughed and called him while I walked to meet Ben.

“I’m pretty sure there are a lot of different things that ‘ca ca’ can mean,” I pointed out.

“Well, her body language is what really brought it home.”

“Well, I hate to disappoint my niece, so I’ll be there. I’m not sure about Ben yet. I’ll find out tonight and text you later.“

“Cool. We’re going to do the actual dinner on Saturday. A couple of our friends are coming over. Then Sunday we’ll do a brunch. Just us.”

“That sounds perfect.”

It’s going to sound weird, but because I always see LB within the context of family stuff, I never think of him as having friends, or any social life, really. I’m looking forward to meeting some of the people in his and Danielle’s life.

When I got to the bar, Ben was already there. He stood to kiss me, and then we sat down across from each other.

“So my mom just called,” he began. “And invited us down for Easter. I thought maybe we could spend Saturday with my father and Amy, and then Sunday with my mom and Lori.”

“Your mom just called? Because I just got off the phone with my brother, who invited us for next weekend as well.”

Ben laughed. “So what do we do? Flip a coin?”

“Well, I already told him I’d be there. What did you tell your mom?”

“That I had to check with you first,” he said, sounding slightly annoyed.

“Are you upset that I committed to going without asking you?”

“No.”

“Oh my god, yes you are! Ben, neither one of us is religious, so it’s not like Easter is a big deal. We don’t have to spend it together.”

“You’re right. But when we’re invited to something, together, I feel like perhaps we should run it by each other before we say yes or no.”

“And I feel like when it comes to our families, we don’t. It’s not like we’re—“ I stopped myself before I said it.

“Not like we’re what?” Ben was visibly starting to get angry. “What were you going to say?”

“Nothing,” I said with a sigh. “I don’t want to fight with you. I just would really like to go see my brother, and my sister-in-law, and my niece. And I would love it if you came with me, but at the same time, I completely understand if you want to spend the weekend with your family.”

Ben took a deep breath. “OK,” he said. “I’m sorry I overreacted.”

“And I’m sorry I didn’t check with you,” I said.

“No. Don’t apologize for that. You were right. We don’t have to run everything by each other.”

I felt like there was another sentence on the end of what he said, though an unspoken one. You’re right, it’s not like we’re married. I spent the whole night kicking myself for almost saying that.

I swear, I am marriage repellant. Right now, I wouldn’t want to marry me, either.

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Thursday, May 5, 2011

Almost Dropping the Marriage Bomb

When I got out of work today, I had a voicemail from Little Brother.

“Hey K. Just calling to invite you and Ben down next weekend for Easter. Emma keeps saying ‘ca ca,’ which I’m pretty sure means, “Why doesn’t Aunt K. ever come to visit me? Does she hate me?”

I laughed and called him while I walked to meet Ben.

“I’m pretty sure there are a lot of different things that ‘ca ca’ can mean,” I pointed out.

“Well, her body language is what really brought it home.”

“Well, I hate to disappoint my niece, so I’ll be there. I’m not sure about Ben yet. I’ll find out tonight and text you later.“

“Cool. We’re going to do the actual dinner on Saturday. A couple of our friends are coming over. Then Sunday we’ll do a brunch. Just us.”

“That sounds perfect.”

It’s going to sound weird, but because I always see LB within the context of family stuff, I never think of him as having friends, or any social life, really. I’m looking forward to meeting some of the people in his and Danielle’s life.

When I got to the bar, Ben was already there. He stood to kiss me, and then we sat down across from each other.

“So my mom just called,” he began. “And invited us down for Easter. I thought maybe we could spend Saturday with my father and Amy, and then Sunday with my mom and Lori.”

“Your mom just called? Because I just got off the phone with my brother, who invited us for next weekend as well.”

Ben laughed. “So what do we do? Flip a coin?”

“Well, I already told him I’d be there. What did you tell your mom?”

“That I had to check with you first,” he said, sounding slightly annoyed.

“Are you upset that I committed to going without asking you?”

“No.”

“Oh my god, yes you are! Ben, neither one of us is religious, so it’s not like Easter is a big deal. We don’t have to spend it together.”

“You’re right. But when we’re invited to something, together, I feel like perhaps we should run it by each other before we say yes or no.”

“And I feel like when it comes to our families, we don’t. It’s not like we’re—“ I stopped myself before I said it.

“Not like we’re what?” Ben was visibly starting to get angry. “What were you going to say?”

“Nothing,” I said with a sigh. “I don’t want to fight with you. I just would really like to go see my brother, and my sister-in-law, and my niece. And I would love it if you came with me, but at the same time, I completely understand if you want to spend the weekend with your family.”

Ben took a deep breath. “OK,” he said. “I’m sorry I overreacted.”

“And I’m sorry I didn’t check with you,” I said.

“No. Don’t apologize for that. You were right. We don’t have to run everything by each other.”

I felt like there was another sentence on the end of what he said, though an unspoken one. You’re right, it’s not like we’re married. I spent the whole night kicking myself for almost saying that.

I swear, I am marriage repellant. Right now, I wouldn’t want to marry me, either.

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Friday, April 29, 2011

Almost Dropping the Marriage Bomb

When I got out of work today, I had a voicemail from Little Brother.

“Hey K. Just calling to invite you and Ben down next weekend for Easter. Emma keeps saying ‘ca ca,’ which I’m pretty sure means, “Why doesn’t Aunt K. ever come to visit me? Does she hate me?”

I laughed and called him while I walked to meet Ben.

“I’m pretty sure there are a lot of different things that ‘ca ca’ can mean,” I pointed out.

“Well, her body language is what really brought it home.”

“Well, I hate to disappoint my niece, so I’ll be there. I’m not sure about Ben yet. I’ll find out tonight and text you later.“

“Cool. We’re going to do the actual dinner on Saturday. A couple of our friends are coming over. Then Sunday we’ll do a brunch. Just us.”

“That sounds perfect.”

It’s going to sound weird, but because I always see LB within the context of family stuff, I never think of him as having friends, or any social life, really. I’m looking forward to meeting some of the people in his and Danielle’s life.

When I got to the bar, Ben was already there. He stood to kiss me, and then we sat down across from each other.

“So my mom just called,” he began. “And invited us down for Easter. I thought maybe we could spend Saturday with my father and Amy, and then Sunday with my mom and Lori.”

“Your mom just called? Because I just got off the phone with my brother, who invited us for next weekend as well.”

Ben laughed. “So what do we do? Flip a coin?”

“Well, I already told him I’d be there. What did you tell your mom?”

“That I had to check with you first,” he said, sounding slightly annoyed.

“Are you upset that I committed to going without asking you?”

“No.”

“Oh my god, yes you are! Ben, neither one of us is religious, so it’s not like Easter is a big deal. We don’t have to spend it together.”

“You’re right. But when we’re invited to something, together, I feel like perhaps we should run it by each other before we say yes or no.”

“And I feel like when it comes to our families, we don’t. It’s not like we’re—“ I stopped myself before I said it.

“Not like we’re what?” Ben was visibly starting to get angry. “What were you going to say?”

“Nothing,” I said with a sigh. “I don’t want to fight with you. I just would really like to go see my brother, and my sister-in-law, and my niece. And I would love it if you came with me, but at the same time, I completely understand if you want to spend the weekend with your family.”

Ben took a deep breath. “OK,” he said. “I’m sorry I overreacted.”

“And I’m sorry I didn’t check with you,” I said.

“No. Don’t apologize for that. You were right. We don’t have to run everything by each other.”

I felt like there was another sentence on the end of what he said, though an unspoken one. You’re right, it’s not like we’re married. I spent the whole night kicking myself for almost saying that.

I swear, I am marriage repellant. Right now, I wouldn’t want to marry me, either.

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