I met this girl 9 years ago and we kissed back then as teenagers...Years went by and we lived our lives away from each other.
Then she re-appears in my life all of a sudden 5 months ago and we started dating many times until now. When we re started hanging out, she told me she was not kind of looking for a relationship at this time, which I understood. However, each date we found ourselves growing emotionally towards each other. One time, we cuddled, next time we got a little drunk and had some rushes of passion (which she stopped claming at the moment that it was too soon and stuff) and finally one night, we kissed...That night was outstanding as we were so close from each other and spent a wonderful evening watching movies and most of the time, kissing and cuddling. It changed my perspective towards her as I felt like I really wanted to love this girl. To really pursue her as a woman and gain her heart.
Here comes the tricky part...That night I forgot my cell phone in her house. i didn't have anything weird just friendly or stupid chats with a lot of people. Nest thing that I dont at the morning after when she gives me my phone back, she has changed a lot. She looked like shew was regreting the previous night or something. Also that night I think I kinda pressured her at the end toward a more sexual pattern, again. I really wasnt looking for that at that point, but it just was a natural impulse I had by the end of the evening.
Until now, it has been a month and I havent seen her, just a couple chats, fb pokes and few phone calls. She declined a couple dates already including Valentines. I sent her flowers since she was sick yesterday and she said it was a nice detail over the chat. I tried reminding of our kiss and how beatiful it was for me and how I felt about her but -she said doesnt want a to ruin our friensdship if we lose control-. I just said ok. Supposedly we will meet this week as she told me last week. Dunno what to do from here. I really care for this girl. Help. Thanks...
Why don't you ask her if there's a problem?
She told you that she doesn't look for a relationship, I think that she was honest about it. Who knows, maybe she just doesn't feel ready to start dating, or maybe she doesn't know yet if she likes you enough to be with you.
Be her friend, court her, be close. Maybe one day she'll change her mind.
Yeah I agree with @Alex@NextRSHIP, just be straight with her and tell her how you feel. Ask her to be honest about everything and if she feels the same way that you do or if it's something that you did that might've bothered her.You may not create new Love Advice Forum threadsYou may not post repliesYou may not post attachmentsYou may not edit your postsForum Rules
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