Hello,

I'm pretty new here and hope you don't mind introducing myself later in the other place.
There is an advice needed for my problem;
with that girl I'm into since meeting her almost 3 years ago.

She is like a social butterfly but always started blocking from one level or suddenly searches someone else to escape. Even tough i was in a relationship for 2 years i felt really unsure and uncomfortable around girls. Especially if there would be more girls around me, i would always get quiet. I'm still working on that.
First i thought that she is also interested in me cause of common interests, same energy and that things like the signs she gave but i guess thats irrelevant.
I invited her out in a group but due to my shyness the whole thing went rather quiet, i just didn't took/realized the opportunities. I didn't contacted her after that but we are on the same university and i got/get to see her every week once or twice.
She kept giving signs like always initiating body contact and that things and i tried to build something, didn't worked out well. She would never go on a drink alone always saying another time... I tried not to give her much attention and she got me again, didn't worked out well at all.
After screwing up everything and telling her its better she leaves me alone, btw in the worst moment ever,
i started to ignore her and she me for some time.

The thing is i'm a wuss if it comes to body contact beyond greeting so i never initiated any or responded to if she gave, ect…
Now after a long time of me just acting friendly showing no signs of attraction i might have another chance with her but i'm unsure if i'm just on the friends list. She is still single and can get every guy she wants.

I don't know how to approach her right, obviously there is some attraction from her site.
So is it the lack of body contact which was/still is the problem?
Any suggestions? Or good books?

Thanks a lot
ec