Hey bro,

I've been in your position. Hopefully I can shed some light.

It's good that you built up an initial rapport with her before getting her contact information. You didn't linger for too long, and that's extremely important. You MUST remain a mystery to this girl, and she has to be made aware of that.

Anyway, I don't like how you asked her to hang out. Friends hang out. At the end of the night they watch movies. Potential lovers go out on dates. At the end of the night they are either engaging in passionate raw sex, or increasing attraction to ensure another get-together.

Women want men who know what they want. In addition they want men who also have the confidence to go after it and get it. Slow to respond is a good sign, she does not want to appear eager. Don't be temped to match her timing with texts. Just respond when you're available to do so. Also, never use a phone to text or talk to build rapport with a girl. That's what talking face to face is for. Only use your phone to organize in-person meetings, and that's it. If she texts you do not ignore her! But keep your responses vague and short, while being respectful. Drop the hint you're not interested in talking to her through a screen. Ask her out on a date, a definite date. This includes a place and a time. Do NOT ask her to hangout. If she cannot make the suggested date you proposed, and tries to offer an alternative one. Do this: Respectfully decline. The last thing you want to convey to her is that you can be easily manipulated, and controlled. Do this, and she effectively has your balls in her hands. You become her man girlfriend who beckons at her call. She does not want to make decisions. She just wants to show up and look hot. You have to be the one who decides on all the details.

There is also a difference between persistence and chasing. The latter of which will land you a solid rejection 100% of the time. Forget all the Hollywood movies you watched growing up. They are a load of BS. That guy never gets the girl in real life. He is more likely to get a restraining order.

You want her to chase you.

Men have the ability to differentiate between logical decision making and emotional interpretation. From an evolutionary standpoint, ancestral males who mixed emotion with rationality found themselves in a "one down" position. They were hesitant. They were over analytical. And that cost them either their potential mating opportunities, resources, or ultimately their life.

The answer lies in female emotion and logic. The truth is women have no idea why they feel attracted to one man vs. another, despite what might come out of their mouthes. Any woman spewing what they view as logic to counteract this sound and valid argument is dead wrong. Now if you really like her, it might seem hard not to shower her with praise and attention. If you do, you will get rejected. Give her some attention and then withdraw. She will think you're a mysterious bad-ass. Just treat her like any other girl, including the ones you have no interest in. And she will come crawling to you. I guarantee it. She'll wonder where you went and start pursuing you.

Happy Hunting