Is this guy into me and will he make a move or should I?

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Ive been going to the same gym as a guy I fancy for a few months. He always stares (not subtly lol) when I work out as it’s an open plan gym so he does weights whilst I work out on the cross trainer. He also checks to see if I'm looking at him as I see him looking at me several times in one workout both directly and in the mirrors and he follows me to the water fountain in the break a lot. This has been going on for over 3 months now and he did once ask me about a machine but I got shy and just let him use it. Recently I asked him for help with a machine and he helped me quickly and went back to his area but kept giving me sad puppy dog looks the rest of the evening as I don't think he realized I only asked him to strike up a conversation. The next time I saw him he kept going near me and almost bumping into me as if he wanted me to say something as he was smiling. Should I try and initiate conversation as I’m quite stubborn and think he should make the approach if he is properly interested. I was also waiting for a friend once to pick me up and he came down the road, got surprised when he saw me and turned and then immediately turned his head again to look and changed direction to drive past me as he was going the opposite direction before he saw me. I wasn’t sure whether to smile so I didn’t look when he drove past so I think he might have got annoyed as
he sped after he passed me. *I assumed from his behavior that he was single and maybe shy but I’ve also seen him alone with a girl twice over these four months and I couldn’t tell if they were a couple as they weren’t holding hands/touchy feely at all but he put his arm casually on the back of her shoulder. The first time I saw him with her, I was a surprised so I looked a lot at first and he turned his head and was staring at me for ages with a smile.I then got embarrassed he caught me looking so went to another part of the store and immediately after he came to where I was and walked past but she was behind him.. Would you think that appears to be his girlfriend or just a friend that happens to be a girl? Both times I saw them together he has gone out of his way to walk into me and follow me to make sure that I see them so I wasn’t sure if she is just a
friend that hes using to get me jealous or if he is trying to test whether I like him as I tried to pretend it didn’t bother me. For example the last time I saw them together *which happened after he turned in the car, I went the opposite direction away from them as soon as I saw them but he quickly went my direction and walked into me almost immediately. We are both young, he is 21 and so am I. He definitely gives mixed signals as he always seems like he is about to make a move but then he doesn’t follow through. A few times he has also ignored me completely when he has been busy with a training partner. From his behavior does it seem as if he likes me and will eventually make an approach or is this a waste of time? Also what would be a good way to start a conversation as I am not
totally against the idea of approaching him but seeing him with this girl occasionally is putting me off.

I think he's shy.
Try to work out next to him, it will make it easier to start the conversation. You can just say "Hi! I see you here often. My name is....What's your name?". If he is interested in you (I think he is!) he'll be willing to talk to you

What has taking you both so long to strike up a conversation? From the way it sounds, you both like each other. Sounds like you both are a little shy and maybe even scared to give it a chance. Are they a ring on his finger? If not, then say Hello! Tell him you see him there often. Tell him your first name and ask what his name is. Then the conversation should start, if it goes well... ask him if he would like to get a smoothie or drink after his workout. Girl, take a chance and you never know what could happen... good luck!!!

I am a little shy too as he does sometimes come and start working out really near me with his weights lol I will try and say hi, its just when he did ask me about the machine i was using i got shy and didnt really say much so he probably thought i wasnt interested in him . He keeps looking and walking into me as if he wants me to say something first but not sure if too much time has passed now? I probably should have done it earlier when he first spoke as that was quite soon after I first saw him lol

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