I'm so hurt and confused about this situation. This guy and I had been having a sort of fling, nothing serious, but we had fun, and we were good friends, or so I thought. We texted three or four times a week, got together whenever we could.

Recently, he needed a little extra cash for a trip he was taking with his band. They were performing at an awards event and it was a pretty big deal. I had some extra work coming my way that I said he could take on if he was interested. He jumped at the opportunity.

The first lot of work I had for him went well. He got it done, and did a great job, although he got them back to me at the last possible minute. The next week I had some more and asked him if he was interested. He was very enthusiastic about doing it again and I sent it along. Communication with him was pretty limited at this time, and I hoped that meant he was getting the work done, and I knew he was also preparing for his event. I happened to run into him a few nights before he went away and he said he hadn't started the work yet, but he was going to get at it that night. I told him there was one more form to be done if he wanted it, and he said yes, definitely.

He texted me the next day with questions about the work, and seemed to be coming along well with it. We chatted for a bit and he told me he should be able to get the last one I sent him done in a couple of days. That was the last I heard from him (a Tuesday). He left town on Thursday.

I texted him on Saturday evening just to say hi, and he apologized for not getting the work back to me. He said he was "bad for being in and out now and then." I said there was no deadline, so it was ok for now. I later realized that he didn't say whether he was actually going to finish the work, so I texted him the next day and told him that if he wasn't going to do it fine, but if he still wanted to finish it there was time. Let me know. I got no reply. I waited a few days and texted him again, just casual and conversational, hoping to draw him into a conversation so I could ask without seeming like a nag. I asked how everything was going so far. No reply.

It was now been nine days since I heard anything from him. I still don't know if he plans to finish the work or if he is just dropping it. He hasn't made any effort to contact me, even though he has been online everyday on FB and other sites. I don't know if I should try one more time to get a response from him, or if I should just write him off.

I'm hurt because I did this as a favour for him, and I took the extra work for him to do. Now, not only is he not getting it done, but he is ignoring me as well. It feels like a slap in the face. I don't know if he is avoiding me because he didn't get the work done, or if he is not doing the work because he wants to avoid me, but neither of those situations seems to fit with his behavior. And I feel like a B**** for not contacting him to say congrats on his success (his band was a huge hit), but after two texts with no response, I feel like he doesn't want to hear from me.

If anyone has any ideas about what might be going on, or how I should handle it, I'd love to hear them.