help me with my relation and to take a good decision

since last December , i have been in a relation wit my best friend's elder sister. shes 25, i am 23.
we met on December and things have been going well since. we dated and then on 25th December we had sex n it all got more serious. i was a virgin before i met her.

she has had 2 past relations. she said she had sex wit them but i think she had one more lover. anyways , i love her alot and we have planned to get married soon. the thing is i feel insecure about it all and though i love her and trust her alot, i am scared about us. we had sex only on 25 dec. on 1st jan, i left my country .so we are in a LDR at the moment. we chat ,talk everyday.

i am worried for:
1) she says she never got wet before. only wet since we been together. kind of hard for to believe. she says she gets wet even when we have phone sex or when i kissed her in real before.the day we had sex she was really wet.
2) things all happened fast so i sometimes question her character. the fact that she had 2 ,but i believe 3 sex relations before makes me cringe sometimes. we discussed bout all her n mine past (i dont have any past sexual history) . she also said she was having sex just for fun and never wanted to marry them. it made me even more worried.
3) shes a wonderful woman and i love her alot . she also loves me but sometimes thinking her past and way she dealt with them makes me insecure and worried.
4) she was sexually active but claims she dint even know her g-spot and doesnt like to finger herself. she is kinda weird sometimes. like once she used her ex's sperm as face pack. knowing dat made me puke .. i had just kissed her .
5) we are planning to get married soon but i fear i may regret it later. i feel like she just wants to marry because she is secure with me. i have a reputation of being simple kind and a loving person. i never was engaged in sex or anything. since i met her all changed for me.

we have shared most things about us like past and all.. we love each other alot but i do feel insecure bout us. i feel like i am being lied on in this relation . so kindly please suggest me on what to do .
thank you in advance
p.s if u need any more info .please ask.
i dont want to lose her because i love her alot . but i do fear i love the wrong person because what is she doesn't love n take me as i do.
thanks

I think you are moving too fast, you should take your time to know each other well. Avoid conversation talking about your past and her past. Just enjoy each other company. If you really love her, then you don't have to over think about her past. Take your time to get to know her well so you won't doubt her.

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You met her on December 2012? If yes, in my opinion it's too soon to think about marriage, you barely know each other, it's just a beginning. Anyway, the past should stay in the past, don't think about her previous relationships. She wants to be with you, this is all that matters

Dude you should slow down, getting married is easy, staying married is really difficult. I can see from your post that you have trust issues with this girl. If you do not trust her how would you be able to live as a married couple where trust is one of the main pillars this is built on. there are a great difference between loving someone and being in love. If it was love you would have forgiven and forgotten her past, as love is unconditional, and I sense quite a lot of conditions coming forth from your post. Sex is not love, and a relationship built on sex will not survive, as you grow older the sex become less and what would you have left then.

I will answer some of your questions but not all of them, as I feel they might be a bit personal and not something you discuss on a public forum.

1. Wetness is mostly caused by hormones, not by someone else. This differs in different parts of the female cycle.
2. If something bothers you, trust your intuition, I get the feeling, this relationship is wrong for you.
3. As I said before, if you can not forgive and accept this you do not truly love her, but love the idea of her.
4. Sperm is a great source of protein and really good for the skin.
5. Sit down and make a pro's and con's list of this relationship, listen to your friends and family's advise. Outsiders see a lot of things we do not and want not. Make sure this girl is not just planning to abuse you and ride on your back to an easy and comfortable life.

Good luck with your decision, if you hesitate let it go, rather get hurt now than ending a marriage, that hurts ten times more.

Dude you should slow down, getting married is easy, staying married is really difficult. I can see from your post that you have trust issues with this girl. If you do not trust her how would you be able to live as a married couple where trust is one of the main pillars this is built on. there are a great difference between loving someone and being in love. If it was love you would have forgiven and forgotten her past, as love is unconditional, and I sense quite a lot of conditions coming forth from your post. Sex is not love, and a relationship built on sex will not survive, as you grow older the sex become less and what would you have left then.

I will answer some of your questions but not all of them, as I feel they might be a bit personal and not something you discuss on a public forum.

1. Wetness is mostly caused by hormones, not by someone else. This differs in different parts of the female cycle.
2. If something bothers you, trust your intuition, I get the feeling, this relationship is wrong for you.
3. As I said before, if you can not forgive and accept this you do not truly love her, but love the idea of her.
4. Sperm is a great source of protein and really good for the skin.
5. Sit down and make a pro's and con's list of this relationship, listen to your friends and family's advise. Outsiders see a lot of things we do not and want not. Make sure this girl is not just planning to abuse you and ride on your back to an easy and comfortable life.

Good luck with your decision, if you hesitate let it go, rather get hurt now than ending a marriage, that hurts ten times more.

thanks alot fo the suggestion ,it made me feel better and think of it maturely. she is my best friend's elder sister. we knew each other and were in contact online. then we felt we were falling in love so we got into a relation. i feel i just need to forget her past as she is happy wit me . she says she forgot her past and doesnt think much. You met her on December 2012? If yes, in my opinion it's too soon to think about marriage, you barely know each other, it's just a beginning. Anyway, the past should stay in the past, don't think about her previous relationships. She wants to be with you, this is all that matters

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