Dating a long time, but fading, crush. Good or bad idea?

First off I'd just like to say I'm pleased to have found this forum! I had a look around and decided to join as I need some advice. I tried Yahoo answers but my question got ignored

This story has a lot of history but I'll make it as brief as possible. When I was a teen a new girl joined the shop where I worked. We got on well from the start and eventually began friendly flirting and had a good time working together. After a while (maybe a month or so) I thought I was getting signals and asked her out on a date but she said no as she was dating another guy. I was a bit shocked as she never mentioned him before and even wondered if it was true but I later found out it was as I saw him in person. I didn't fully understand their relationship as she kept it very quiet. Time passed and they split up. She wanted my comfort and support and one day we kissed. It wasn't a long one, but more than just a peck. I thought it might lead to something but she backed off and became distant. Eventually after advice from a friend I asked her out again and she admitted she liked me but wasn't ready to date again. We remained good friends but one day she quit work and when she was about to leave, she made me delete her number. I still don't understand why to this day!? Anyway, life went on and a lot of time passed. I think it was about 5 years later we got in contact again thanks to Facebook. It was on there I learned she was single and after talking with her for a few weeks, I suggested meeting up. Yet again it was a no. It was then I decided to put an end to this and realised that we'd only ever be friends. A few more years went by and we'd talk once in a while via messenger and Facebook but that was it. She began dating her ex again but was often having problems. Then just last week she posted some negative status's and I messaged her to see if all was ok. This was the first contact with her for almost a year I think? She said her boyfriend wasn't being nice and she was fed up with him and wanted out. They must have split later that day and she messaged me and said she needed a fresh start and within 3 messages, she asked me out! I assumed she meant as friends but she called it a dinner date and has been very flirty in her messages. It's been about 12 years in the making but the date is on! The only thing is, although I still like her, it's faded somewhat. Is it a good idea to go on this date? I feel this would have been amazing for the '10 year ago me' but now, I feel kind of empty about it! Not very excited for some reason?

No harm giving it a go to see how things work out, since you two have not really dated or known each other on a more personal level.

Go out with her. You'll finally get the date you were looking for, you'll be
supporting a fellow human being and if you don't want it to go any further,
you don't have to. Just don't lead her on and as soon as you know, make it
clear you're there as a friend.

On the other hand, sparks could fly!

I think you should give it a try. You have nothing to lose, if you won't feel anything, you can just end it. But I think at least this time you should say yes. Aren't you curious how she looks now and how it will be to talk to her in person?

Enjoy you date, don't have any expectations just two friends having dinner. It will not be like the past as she has changed and so have you. Good luck.

Thanks guys! It's nice to get some replies that go with my way of thinking. I was thinking of going and looking at it as a 'friends out for dinner' kind of thing and maybe just see if there is a spark or connection. If not, at least I know right? I haven't actually seen her in person for at least 5 years so it'll be nice to catch up at least. Thanks again

Have a nice evening together and let us know how it turns out for you!

Have a nice evening together and let us know how it turns out for you!Thank you and I will for sure. I might be after some more advice after date

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