6 Signs He's Not The One [EXPERT]

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ProConnect Subscribe to Experts Blog By Akua Bediako. Posted on Mar 13th 2013.

Do you know the signs? These red flags suggest you might be better off cutting your losses and moving on ... pronto.

Are you wondering if this could be "the one?"

Dating isn't always easy, and neither is building a relationship. So, women often stay in relationships that are not quite right, believing the rough spots will smooth themselves out. After all, no relationship is perfect so you have to expect some problems, right?

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To a certain extent, this may be true. However, there are certain red flags you can spot early on when dating that indicate you may want to cut your losses and move on. Here are just a few:

1. There's nothing to say. So, you're dating this guy, and the sexual chemistry is amazing, but beyond that, you have no conversation at all. You don't share any common interests and you stare at the walls when you spend time together.

When your mother or grandmother told you to "marry your best friend," they were right. Sex is very important for a healthy relationship. However, in real life, things like illness and age can cause sex to take a back seat. So, for the sake of the long haul, it is important to have a partner you love to talk to.

2. You're walking on eggshells. Long-term relationships should be comfortable for both parties. A couple should feel like they are at home, in a safe haven when they are together. While every couple can experience a touchy subject or two if you are constantly watching what you say or do for fear it will make your new sweetie angry or hurt his feelings, look ahead five or 10 years into the future. Is this really what you want?

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3. He makes you uncomfortable. Now, I'm not talking about his annoying habit of pretending to pull away as you get in the car, but if there are bigger things you don't agree with, like his level of alcohol or drug use, think long and hard before committing to the long term. Keep reading ...

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Akua Bediako

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Specialties: Dating/Being Single Support, Empowering Women, Spiritual

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