Sunday, January 6, 2013

Am I falling for my cousin?

Love and Relationship Advice Forum

I have a distant aunt (3rd grade or something) with whom I'm pretty close (although our families have pretty much lost any contact). When I decided to go to med school she kept telling me, I had a cousin (her nephew) who studies there too, but is 3 years older than me. I got into med school and of course all was forgotten because of all the busyness, exams, and so on. In my 2nd year, when things got harder, I remembered my cousin who is now in his 5th year. I assumed a 5th year student could give me lots of precious info about a medical student's life and what chould I expect. So I got his phone number and sent him a text telling him I'm his other cousin from med school. He was very happy to find out about me, and said we should meet up. We texted for days and days and he was very nice to me, I thought myself as very lucky to have such a cool cousin. When we met up, I felt butterflies in my stomach, and I didn't know why. Then when I saw a picture of his (pretty ugly, I may say) long-distance girlfriend, I felt jealousy runnung down my spine. I became very interested in him, and he seemed very interested in me, too. I started researching on cousins' marriages on different aspects : legal, religious and most importantly, genetical. I found out a 3rd cousin is actually an 8th degree relative, and marriage/relationships between 8th degree relatives are accepted both legally and religiously. It made me extremely happy, but I couldn't see why : I may like him more than my cousin, but we were still somewhat cousins, he had a girlfriend, and I didn't know if he could ever feel the same way. On Christmas I met his parents who are really nice people, and they told me that their son was extremely enthusiasic of having met me.We still get along really, really well, and sometimes I think maybe I should tell him, but other times I really don't see the point.An objective point of view would be very helpful from you guys. Thank you very much!
Honestly, if your families are distant, and you're 3rd cousins, I don't really see an issue.
But does he like you?
Well, he has a girlfriend. Long distance (they see each other 2-3 times a year), but still a relationship. I don't know yet if he likes me as I like him...
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