We talk every day but we never go out!

My story is strange I'm afraid to say, and it has been taking a lot of my energy.

My name is Chloe Im 25 years old, and I'm originally from French Canada - I started talking to this guy (let's call him Ben) by internet, he is British. We just started talking because I had plans to study in Oxford, so I wanted to make friends with local people.
We spent 3 or 4 months talking everyday while I was still in Canada, and we would text each other all the time as well.... My first day here in England was more like a fairy tale and he took me for dinner and the rest is story

Well, the fact is that I arrived here in January, and since then we just went out around 10 times but we are still talking every day. He has some depression issue, I have counseled him to find help and he did, but it seems he isn't getting better.
Another problem is, the fact every time he gets drunk he texts me saying he loves me (I never reply)... I don't understand, if he loves me, why he has issues to make me his girlfriend? Every time I use the word relationship he gets mad, I feel like giving it up but I am too needy to let it go. After all, talking to him every day makes me feel '' less alone''.

There is another thing, every time we have met, he spends 1 week ignoring me then later he says he was busy and things go back to normal.

Really need help because I feel so attached to this man

If he is suffering from depression, then it's a really complicated and serious situation. Depression is not something that will just go away. It's such an awful disease and it is affecting whole life - maybe this is because he is acting so weird. If you care for him, you should be close to him, but it's not enough - so it's great that you insisted on him to find help, you just should do it again. Did he go to the doctor? Is he taking any medication?

I think you should persevere with the relationship because I don't think he means any harm, judging by what you have told us. He obviously has mental problems and I think you could help him overcome or at least manage his depression so that it doesn't make you feel bad. Be patient and understanding, listen to him.

Isnt strange the fact we talk every single day, but he doesn't mention about seeing me? He drinks a lot, and when he drinks he says he misses me and loves me (by text), otherwise he wouldn't talk about it.
These days, he said I have been the best thing to happen to his life f... but I don't understand how someone can say all this and don't make efforts to see me.

Actually even when he was treating his depression, he didn't get much better and now he stopped with the treatment. To me is everything too strange, because he can go out and get drunk with his friends... he says he feels very self conscious when he is with me and he doesn't know why (even in sex).

I love him and don't know why, his behavior is so selfish...

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