im 22 years old and a college student... i met this girl at school through some friends, then we became school buddies and then we became friends... i started liking her and wanted to talk to her... we would text all the time and see her on campus everyday. one time i told her that i like her, she said that at one point she had a thing for me but it went away and its not going to work out between us. things got really awkward between us two. then we became friends again and started hanging out one-on-one and text more than ever before. the first time we made out(for like an hr) i thought that things might be starting to go my way. she brought it up several time as a joke about us making out and i just played it cool as if nothing happened. only us two went on a trip out of state to west coast. we had a blast everything was perfect, we slept in the same bed cuddled and one night we made out(intense) all clothes came off but no sex. we cuddled some more and then fall asleep. in the morning we cuddled a little more and kissed few times. few days after we got back to ohio, she wanted to talk about what happened because she thinks it kind of went a little too far. i told her everything i've always wanted to tell her and came with the conclusion that its not going to happen. we stayed friends and kept on talking and hanging out. she doesnt trust people at all and now we are really close friends and she tells me everything and trust me with everything. till now we still hang out and talk all day and sometimes talk on the phone for 2 and 3 hrs straight. we still make out and sometimes it gets really intense but still no sex. she knows that i like her a lot and might even be in love with her by now and how much i care and how far i will go for her and that i would whatever to see happy. she cares for me too and always wants the best for me and motivate me to do better. she doesnt kiss guys like that or hook up with them, she is a little uptight and have a great self respect for herself and she is classy with good manors not ghetto and slutty. i know for a fact 100% that she likes me and even all of our friends pointed out because its obvious and you can feel it if its there. she is not playing games she is pretty straight forward and told me since the start. she wants me to be happy and cares a lot and she even cries when it comes up but yet she is not giving it a chance. we are same age just few weeks apart, and i think she wants an older stabled guy to date for sometime and get serious with him and get wifed up. she mentioned that im too young and still don't have it going for me yet. i don't know how to break through this and just make her give a chance. she even mentions that pretty much we are dating but she doesn't like this, we had a talk about it and things we back to normal(talk all the time hang out make out and all) our chemistry is crazy good the spark is there you can feel it all over the air, you got to be blind not to see. i banged my way out of a friendzone and when we are together we call each other baby and all i do it more than she does. i'm in the middle between a boyfriend and a close friend. i have been around a lot i was a total whore played girls date a bunch but never been in this situation and i froze i don't know what to do and how to do it. all i know if i get this one chance she will not regret it. we are so good together and happy and things are beyond perfect. we are going on another trip in 2 weeks again. she buys me things i buy her things i take her out she takes me out. but still no relationship.
Last edited by iwanther; Yesterday at 07:58 PM.
Well, whether or not she wants to admit it, it sounds like you too are already dating.
but this isn't enough for me. i want it to be official, i want to be able to take her everywhere telling everyone this is my lady and brag about her. she is the only person that makes me happy, when we are together i feels better than heaven. what should i do to make it happen??
Well, whether or not she wants to admit it, it sounds like you too are already dating.but this isn't enough for me. i want it to be official, i want to be able to take her everywhere telling everyone this is my lady and brag about her. she is the only person that makes me happy, when we are together i feels better than heaven. what should i do to make it happen??
She told you that she wants an older, more stable guy, correct? Bottom-line, she likes you like she likes a little puppy. She's stringing you along until something "better" comes along. My suggestion, you can still be her friend but you should draw the line in the sand. You've told her you want more, you've made it clear, but evidently she doesn't want more, but she is enjoying the heavy petting the two of you are doing. As difficult as this may be for you to do, or any guy to do, put an end to the intimacy with no sex. Why? Because as soon as that older guy comes along she's going to dump you like a bad cold.I'm serious guy, so the best thing for you to do is call it off now. Again, the two of you can still be friends but you need to straight-up tell her to (and I don't mean to be crass) .. shyt or get off the pot ..
She told you that she wants an older, more stable guy, correct? Bottom-line, she likes you like she likes a little puppy. She's stringing you along until something "better" comes along. My suggestion, you can still be her friend but you should draw the line in the sand. You've told her you want more, you've made it clear, but evidently she doesn't want more, but she is enjoying the heavy petting the two of you are doing. As difficult as this may be for you to do, or any guy to do, put an end to the intimacy with no sex. Why? Because as soon as that older guy comes along she's going to dump you like a bad cold.I'm serious guy, so the best thing for you to do is call it off now. Again, the two of you can still be friends but you need to straight-up tell her to (and I don't mean to be crass) .. shyt or get off the pot ..
i was thinking the same that she is getting the benefit of a relationship without committing to anything. i was thinking maybe after the trip try to drop it or fade away slowly maybe she ll notice and come back. at this point i dont know what to do and im getting hopeless, there is nothing that can be done right??
You could tell her that you think that looking for an older guy is just ridiculous to you. You love her, you get along, you want a relationship with her but you can't do anything about when you were born. Then tell her you aren't willing to continue without a commitment and cut her off.One of two things will happen... she will either go along her merry way and find an older guy or she will realize how much she needs you and change her mind about the age thing. It might be your only chance. Right now she can have her own way and play her games and still have you around. She is clearly in control. By cutting her off you will possibly gain some control back and a little respect.
You have to be prepared that this will end it too though. But right now, just going day to day doesn't seem to be working. It's somewhat of a gamble but it might be your only chance.
I have experienced this kind of thing before. The girl was great as a friend but I was definitely not in her list as husband material. So let it be. You can't force her to marry you. And it would be ridiculous for you to try to court a girl who doesn't think that you are the type who will be a husband for her.
You could tell her that you think that looking for an older guy is just ridiculous to you. You love her, you get along, you want a relationship with her but you can't do anything about when you were born. Then tell her you aren't willing to continue without a commitment and cut her off.One of two things will happen... she will either go along her merry way and find an older guy or she will realize how much she needs you and change her mind about the age thing. It might be your only chance. Right now she can have her own way and play her games and still have you around. She is clearly in control. By cutting her off you will possibly gain some control back and a little respect.
You have to be prepared that this will end it too though. But right now, just going day to day doesn't seem to be working. It's somewhat of a gamble but it might be your only chance.
I was thinking about doing this after the trip and see how it goes...I was also thinking if I talk to some other girl maybe jealousy will do the trick... There has been a few girls wanted to talk to me while I was working on her situation but I didn't even bother to think about talking to them in any kind of way... last night there is another girl that wants to get to know me and she is really pretty and cool, so I told her about it and the whole she kept bring her up in a joking way... so maybe it will help... I see where she is coming from but just like you said its ridiculous to think like this and the fact that I know she likes me and cares for me but yet she actually told me why not give this new girl a chance that's where I got upset and I told her your the last person to talk about giving chances... she is total control I went so soft on her played weak... some of our mutual friends asked if they can talk to her but I said no because I don't want things to get weird and awkward or get any worse
I have experienced this kind of thing before. The girl was great as a friend but I was definitely not in her list as husband material. So let it be. You can't force her to marry you. And it would be ridiculous for you to try to court a girl who doesn't think that you are the type who will be a husband for her.I'm not asking her to be my wife now I didn't even think about it that far... all I'm asking for is to give it a chance and well go from there... If things were to work out good I would deff think about wifing her up lets just try to get that one chance for now which I'm losing hope for it to happen... it sucks man she is all I really wantYou may not create new Love Advice Forum threadsYou may not post repliesYou may not post attachmentsYou may not edit your postsForum Rules
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