im not sure if she likes me or not?

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i met up with a girl i met online a couple of fridays ago and i thought it went really well and we have been chatting all over the weekend and she hinted at meeting up again and we have something arranged for thursday just gone but a couple of days before shes stopped replying to me and barely spoke and i was worried if we were still gunna meet i was worried shes lost interest i saw her online and other things sometimes i do worry alot about things anyway so maybe im just worrying about nothing
So yeah the second date went really well and had a good laugh and at the end of the evening she said if she could have a cheeky kiss we also discussed meeting again now it's gone back to how it was where we're exchange a few texts then she just won't reply to one also she doesn't really text me first thing is I just can't tell if it's a bad sign or not maybe she's not a big texter but I don't want to over text her but I don't want to not talk to her and if I don't text her one day will she think I'm not interesting I'm really probably overthinking this obviously i want to arrange something with her but just worried i wish i wasnt like this

Last edited by aarrock; 08-26-2012 at 08:06 PM.

It's just a beginning of a relationship, I'd just keep it casual for a while. Don't text her too much, because she'll think that you have nothing else to do. Maybe stop for a day and then ask her out to another date. Seeing each other face to face is much better than just texting. Maybe she just doesn't carry her cell with her all the time. I'm sure she likes you, because she wanted to meet you again and there was this cheeky kiss. So don't worry

It's just a beginning of a relationship, I'd just keep it casual for a while. Don't text her too much, because she'll think that you have nothing else to do. Maybe stop for a day and then ask her out to another date. Seeing each other face to face is much better than just texting. Maybe she just doesn't carry her cell with her all the time. I'm sure she likes you, because she wanted to meet you again and there was this cheeky kiss. So don't worrythank you yeah i hope so shes on a few week off from work but i know shes been busy seeing other friends and essay writing but yeah when we have met up in person we have got on so well so will take you advice

I think that the fact that she went out with you for the second date shows some interest. However, it has only been two dates and you are still in a very casual zone. Why don't you try calling her sometimes instead of texting. Also, try giving her a little space to reach out to you from time to time. Go the entire day (or maybe even two if you can) without reaching out to her and see if she'll bother reaching out to you instead. When/if she doesn't reach out to you tell her that you apologize and you've been "super busy" with work. Then cooly let her know that you are excited or anticipating then next time the two of you meet. If she is not replying to your text immediately then something is wrong. It may not be a bad thing. It could be as simple as she's one of those people who hates to text OR it can be as serious as she can't text because she's with her boyfriend/husband. Just keep an eye out for anything unusual (as you should be doing with every new person you are interested in) and try not to reach out to her too much if she isn't returning the gesture.

I think that the fact that she went out with you for the second date shows some interest. However, it has only been two dates and you are still in a very casual zone. Why don't you try calling her sometimes instead of texting. Also, try giving her a little space to reach out to you from time to time. Go the entire day (or maybe even two if you can) without reaching out to her and see if she'll bother reaching out to you instead. When/if she doesn't reach out to you tell her that you apologize and you've been "super busy" with work. Then cooly let her know that you are excited or anticipating then next time the two of you meet. If she is not replying to your text immediately then something is wrong. It may not be a bad thing. It could be as simple as she's one of those people who hates to text OR it can be as serious as she can't text because she's with her boyfriend/husband. Just keep an eye out for anything unusual (as you should be doing with every new person you are interested in) and try not to reach out to her too much if she isn't returning the gesture.yeah there some good points there thanks think maybe i have been reaching out more than she has i asked her and she said she doesnt like talking on the phone which is fair enough cause im not that great at it either

yeah there some good points there thanks think maybe i have been reaching out more than she has i asked her and she said she doesnt like talking on the phone which is fair enough cause im not that great at it eitherSo she doesn't like talking on the phone and she doesn't respond to text that well either? That's not a good way to get to know someone/ encourage them to try to get to know you. Just keep in mind what I said about monitoring this. I wouldn't assume the worse just yet. I'm not trying to be negative it's just that the lines of communication between the two of you seems to be mostly on her terms.

well we have days when we text lots and other when i guess shes busy when i barely hear from her

Wow, you seems like a really stressed person (and using a little bit of punctuation won't hurt you, I had a really hard time reading your message).

And honestly, reading your message stressed me a little bit, ares the same with her? If yes you might scare her. I once started a guy and he was so into me I was annoyed. I mean, I just agreed to date a little bit to know him better and he would text me all the time, wanted to see me all the time. Being jealous all the time. At the end I just told him I didn't want to see him anymore. It was just too much.

Relax a little bit

Don't scare her away. I myself, is very busy and sometimes I don't have the time to reply back to messages. Maybe she is just busy and doesn't have the time. She gave you a second date so that has to mean something. Don't hound her with texts, it can make you seem desperate. Wait a little bit and let her miss you.

I also think you're coming on too strong, if I'm honest. If your texts are like your posts here - no punctuation and repeating the same things all the time - she's probably wondering what sort of guy she's got herself mixed up with. Give her some space and relax a little. It's early days yet, but even if you'd been dating for months, the way you're stressing about not hearing enough from her comes across as somewhat obssessive. Tone it down - and learn how to use commas, full stops and capital letters.

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