I really need some help here!

Hey there guys and girls, I have a slight problem here.

I just met this girl about a month ago, and we both really like each other. We are going to different universities about 1.5 hours away from each other. Now, the distance isn't the problem. The problem is that her schedule prevents her from even having a social life for this next year, and she said she can't be in a relationship for this year. I'm willing to wait the year to be with her, because that's how special I think she is, but we are both worried that I'm going to fall into the friend zone over the course of this year.

Now, I have no idea why she doesn't want to be in a relationship, since we both REALLY like each other. I understand that she needs to focus on her school work, but I'm not there to distract her, I'm there to support her throughout this year! She's a very stubborn person, and she has her mind set on not being in a relationship during this year, but I need some advice on how to convince her otherwise. I fear we will lose sight of each other over the course of this year if we aren't together in the relationship sense.

She is telling you she isn't ready for a relationship... so you move on and date other girls. There are lots of them out there.

The thing is you shouldn't have to convince her otherwise and trying to do so is just forcing her into something against her will. It's not worth it. Let this one go and find someone who actually wants to be in a relationship.

Who knows maybe with time, she might change her mind on her own but it has to be something that she decides on her own. Until then, don't wait for her. Go out, date other girls and have fun.

I think that if she really likes you, she'll miss you if you don't see each other for a while. I'm afraid that all you can do now is to wait and see what she'll do. Maybe wait for a while, let her miss you, and then go visit her as a friend.

Move on. She is definitely not interested. Sounds like she just wants to get on with living her own life - separate from all of the old attachments. There is really nothing to do about it. Just accept it and allow her to move on. Some people are heartless and tell lots of lies for the fun of it...and it truly seems as if she is one of those.

I think that you just need to respect what she's saying. I'm the same way. When I am in school, I don't want any distractions. Partners always say one thing when they are just starting to date someone with obligations, but soon they are upset because you don't make enough time for them. Respect that she is being upfront with you. You can always maintain a friendship with her for now. If you want to be in a relationship you're going to have to move on.

Why should you wait for a year for her? I

don't understand why she rejects you if she REALLY likes you? I mean she really can't spend 3 hours with you every Saturday for example? I wonder if she is really interested. Maybe she just want to fell desired and have someone running after her.

I mean, what if you wait for a year and then, she doesn't feel ready yet, and then another year, and then she meets someone else...Commooooon.

It sounds as if she's clearing the decks ready to have a good time when she goes away. Nobody is completely tied up all the time, even at university. The only time when she may need to focus exclusively on work is in the run up to exams at the end of the year. She wants to head for campus with no ties, and there's nothing wrong with that. It's not as if you've been going steady for a year or more - you only met a month ago.

She's trying to let you down gently, so accept what she says and have some fun yourself. If she's really into you, she'll miss you and get in touch, but leave it to her and certainly don't wait around for her.

You just need to respect the fact that she doesn't want a relationship right now. It's perfectly normal for a person to not want a relationship while in school. She just wants to focus more on her studies and doesn't want to be tied down at the moment. Don't force her into a relationship when she is not ready, it will not work out.

She is not interested in having a relationship at this point in her leave and you need to respect her wishes. Pestering her and trying to convince her she should have a relationship with you will only serve to push her away. I don't understand why she would be worried about you falling into 'friend zone', that doesn't make sense to me...

One thing you do not want is to force her into a relationship she is not ready for. If she says no relation right now then respect that. At least she is not say no relationship at all.

The key for you here is to be there for her as best as you can be. Do not be desperate, nor too needy in terms of her time and seeing her. So do not call her too often nor try to go see her too often. Try to be supportive from afar. Every now and then (like every other moth or so) tell her you "like" her very much. Do something nice for her once in awhile (and expect nothing back in return) just to make her feel special.

Try taking your cue from her and see what happens in a year.

Also don't be afraid to date other girls. Remember you two do not have a commitment to each other.

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