friends and their dating problems

I have a friend (no really, I do) who likes this guy. I'm very happy for her, but there are some red flags. She expects me to agree with every great thing she says about him, then when she's feeling that the situation is hopeless she wants me to agree as well. This new guy she's spending time with:

1. His ex girlfriend just had a baby last month
2. He doesn't work, but he only texts her at night
3. He spends the night (she says they do not have sex)
4. His ex-girlfriend has his phone sometimes and he says that she was
upset when she read their text messages.
5. He won't give her a solid answer. He tells her time will tell.
6. He hasn't taken her out on a date.

She tells me how unbreakable she feels their bond is. She says being with him is like "looking in the mirror." I feel that this guy may be bad news, but I feel badly about it. She is the type to think that people are jealous, but this guy sounds like a creep to me. I'm kind of torn. On one hand I want to give her my honest opinion, but on the other hand I feel like she only accepts the good things. She constantly talks about him, and it's a bit annoying to keep having to find positive things about this situation. Have you ever been in a similar situation?

Very much so. My best friend and I are very united in our feelings about relationship-communication things, though... we give honest opinions, but we're still supportive. It's a hard line to toe sometimes, but that's what we do.

I've dated my fair share of creepers, and she was there for me when they'd hurt me and nodded along when I was happy with how things were. She always supported me regardless of how I was feeling about them at the time. Do I think you should just let your friend get dragged through the mud because of this guy? No. What my best friend did was she'd say something honestly to me when I was feeling good about the guy--something like "It doesn't bother you that he just had a baby with this girl, though?", because I went through that too--and even if I wanted to see him in rainbow lights, that little question from someone I love and trust was in the back of my head and ultimately played a part in my breaking up with the guy.

It depends on how much you value your friendship with this person. If you see this guy as being dangerous or something, then you definitely need to voice your opinion. If he's just obnoxious or a loser...well, there's not too much you can do about that. Be as supportive of her as you can, and once in a while in casual, relative conversation just ask an innocent question about him. That way, you'll have your "old" friend back once they break up, because she'll realize you've been there for her this whole time.

And, one day, you'll probably sit down together over margaritas and she'll say, "God, I was dumb."

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For everything else, I'm just gonna give you my personal opinion, and you'll just have to like it! Just kidding, but I'll do my best.

Truth is, even if you tell her, she will still see him and defend him. Sometimes you have let people make their mistakes, so they can learn from them. Either way she is not going to listen. But as a true friend I would voice my opinion about it.

You are good friend to her, so I think u should tell her about him and tell her forget him cuz he is not for truestable man..

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