Awkward and new situation

Hello everyone this is my first post in this place and i hope your answers will really help me. So how do I start... I met a guy on facebook from Belgium almost 2 years ago but never spoked too much but now that i started comeing in Belgium in holiday to my grandmother we started seeing each other along with his best friend that i also know from facebook. They are friends of my cousin so that;s how i met them. So now i'm in holiday in Belgium and i have been going out with these guys but just one of them is single. I have never thinked about that before i just thought of them like some good friends. Last saturday was the birthday of one of these guys, i am not makeing no racist commentaries but he is black and i am white; and we both ended up being a little drunk so we started kissing and all that but we haven't went any further. Next day when we met just the 2 of us we acted like nothing happend like it was an accident because we were drunk but we are having a lot of fun together and we get along very very well. He is a really nice guy. So last night we've been to a big party but before the party this guy promised to his best friend that he won't kiss me that night because he didn't wanted to feel awkward alone, and he kinda ignored me for the night but around 4-5 in the morning we started talking again a lot and his friend went home leaving us alone. We stood on a bench like for 2-3 hours talking about stuff and i was so tired that i putted my head over his shoulder and he started huging me, and after some time he kissed me. Then both of us looked so confused and we started talking about what we feel about each other and he said that: he really likes me that i'm his type of girl, that at the moment he doesn't want any relationship but if i was liveing in Belgium we would've been together and all this kind stuff like i'm beautifull and that he doesn't mind that he is shorter with less than 1 inch than me if that is not a problem for me and all that.... and he 'really wanted to know what i was feeling for him; and because i was really really tired and i have a lot of problems saying my feelings i don't know why i started crying when he told me that he is sad that i;m leaving back home on friday.... and the thing is that i really like him and he is the first guy i really like and i told him that and he said that it's really really cute that i tried to express my feeling to him....

So i am sorry for this long post but i don't know if he said all those words just to make me feel better or he really meant them. Next year i am moving here and we will be in the same city but i don't know how things will be until then... and he didn't said a word about a distance realationship. I said sorry for started crying today and that it happened because i was very tired not because i'm in love with him or i am very sensible or something.
Sorry for my english i tried my best i'm not native....So i am waiting for every king of opinion from you guys. Thank you

So i am sorry for this long post but i don't know if he said all those words just to make me feel better or he really meant them. Next year i am moving here and we will be in the same city but i don't know how things will be until then... and he didn't said a word about a distance realationship. I said sorry for started crying today and that it happened because i was very tired not because i'm in love with him or i am very sensible or something.
Sorry for my english i tried my best i'm not native....So i am waiting for every king of opinion from you guys. Thank youHi Andreea!

I'm sorry for what's happening to you. The same thing happened to me recently and I didn't know what to think or say.The problem is that ,when you just have met a new guy,you don't really know what they are thinking;it's like coded messages ,because we all are afraid to appear stupid or to say the wrong thing ,or even worse to reveal our true feelings.So , just take it easy;you don't know this guy yet.Just relax and get to know him first and see if you really like him.True ,it's not easy in a long distance relationship ( believe me ,I know! I'm in one myself) but it can be done.Actually ,first try to figure what he wants.But you don't want to scare him off either by asking too direct questions.I have been trying to figure it out myself and I found few books to help me understand guys better.I have been reading this great book that helped me quite a bit.Here ,I'll send you the info.Meanwhile ,try to take it one step at a time.
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Thanks a lot for the advice. Now i left Belgium i am back home and i already miss him... i'm gonna take things easy to be friends and not talk too much about the future and makeing plans and all that one step at a time

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